ND, your Halloween season sounds like my hurricane season, re: massive workload.

Heh, Laura, that's hilarious.

NoiseDesign- good luck getting through to the other side. grind~ma.

Dear Fellow Democrat: Please don't mansplain to me about the ADA and how it works. It's not so much that people try to keep me out things, but they do not think about me when they decide how wide the aisles are, or how much room in between tables, etc.(all stuff there are not, to my admittedly imperfect knowledge, legal regulations about) but they still create actual barriers, in real life. Who wouldn't want a five-year lawsuit with her Cuba Libre anyway?(Not that I'm litigious, even if that crap didn't take forever. Which it totally does.) The fact that you could write "Well, there's the ADA, so that's no problem." makes you smug and annoying. and I'm sorry I defended you when other people said you are a hopeless dork.

Complaining about being tired when you're exhausted is totally understandable, ND! I hope you can get enough sleep in there.

He funny. Me smarter.

You sure are, Laura. What a dick.

erika, sorry you have to deal with the smug annoying mansplainers, and even more sorry the ADA doesn't really give you everything you need.

Yeah, me too.(it does make a *difference*, but it's not like "We have A Law now...we kicked that nasty Ableism problem right in the butt.") Fans in sports bars are still gonna cheer and give me a view of their unappealing asses. Surely a political person should not be surprised that there is a gap between what the law says and what happens in real life.(and not, like, on purpose. I'm not a typical customer, and people don't know what to consider till I'm there.) And there isn't a law that says my chair shouldn't have to be in the aisle to get jostled.Argh.

And there isn't a law that says my chair shouldn't have to be in the aisle to get jostled.

Common sense law? Oh yeah, the people who understand the facts don't actually make the rules.

Yeah. The only way to have calm confidence about stuff like that is for it not to be your problem.

I'm sorry things did not go as planned. I hope you can let it go .

However, the word I would use when/if you complain is dishonest. As in you can not trust the owner to keep her word/contract.

but I cant wait to see the rest of the pictures

Teppy if you want to let it go you should of course, but don't let anyone decide for you it is "best" or morally better to let it go. And don't assume letting it go is always emotionally better either. It is emotionally better to move on, but sometimes moving on means making sure whoever wronged you does not get away with doing the same thing to somebody else. I'm not saying you are obliged to complain, any more than you are obliged not to. I'm just saying that emotionally, sometimes letting someone get away with wronging you with no consequences can fester, and taking action can be more emotionally healthy than letting it pass. The point is that you should act in the way you judge best.

There is a post in Making Light that is tangentially related about forgiveness, though it deals with much more serious long term situations. [link] . I will add though that even though it is not as bad as family abuse or some of the other things that the thread discusses, what the B&B did to you and Tim and your friends and families was a really bad thing. It is not something you are obliged to take lightly.

I'm home sick today. The past two weeks of trying to power through the pain have caught up with me, and I've just got no energy to do anything.