Complaining about being tired when you're exhausted is totally understandable, ND! I hope you can get enough sleep in there.

He funny. Me smarter.

You sure are, Laura. What a dick.

erika, sorry you have to deal with the smug annoying mansplainers, and even more sorry the ADA doesn't really give you everything you need.

Yeah, me too.(it does make a *difference*, but it's not like "We have A Law now...we kicked that nasty Ableism problem right in the butt.") Fans in sports bars are still gonna cheer and give me a view of their unappealing asses. Surely a political person should not be surprised that there is a gap between what the law says and what happens in real life.(and not, like, on purpose. I'm not a typical customer, and people don't know what to consider till I'm there.) And there isn't a law that says my chair shouldn't have to be in the aisle to get jostled.Argh.

And there isn't a law that says my chair shouldn't have to be in the aisle to get jostled.

Common sense law? Oh yeah, the people who understand the facts don't actually make the rules.

Yeah. The only way to have calm confidence about stuff like that is for it not to be your problem.

I'm sorry things did not go as planned. I hope you can let it go .

However, the word I would use when/if you complain is dishonest. As in you can not trust the owner to keep her word/contract.

but I cant wait to see the rest of the pictures

Teppy if you want to let it go you should of course, but don't let anyone decide for you it is "best" or morally better to let it go. And don't assume letting it go is always emotionally better either. It is emotionally better to move on, but sometimes moving on means making sure whoever wronged you does not get away with doing the same thing to somebody else. I'm not saying you are obliged to complain, any more than you are obliged not to. I'm just saying that emotionally, sometimes letting someone get away with wronging you with no consequences can fester, and taking action can be more emotionally healthy than letting it pass. The point is that you should act in the way you judge best.

There is a post in Making Light that is tangentially related about forgiveness, though it deals with much more serious long term situations. [link] . I will add though that even though it is not as bad as family abuse or some of the other things that the thread discusses, what the B&B did to you and Tim and your friends and families was a really bad thing. It is not something you are obliged to take lightly.

I'm home sick today. The past two weeks of trying to power through the pain have caught up with me, and I've just got no energy to do anything.

Teppy, I'm so sorry that the innkeeper didn't stick to her word wrt your wedding. I was really hoping that she would. You should do whatever you want to do in this situation. If you need to let it go, then do that, and if you want to fight back, you should do that too. Either way, I hope you are really enjoying that little high you get from getting married to the right person.

{{{Hil}}} I'm sorry, feel better.

Ugh, erika. I'm sorry you have to deal with that crap. One of these days I'm going to get into a fight in the theater by telling the dozen or so people ahead of me in line for the one handicapped bathroom on the first floor that a couple gray hairs doesn't mean they can't walk down six steps for the other bathrooms. My filter for not saying stuff is quickly disappearing.

Tea:

I could use some calm~ma today. We have an appointment with the fertility doctor this afternoon, and I'm currently not dealing very well.

I don't know if the ADA not doing all that was promised is more frustrating, or the way it makes the people not involved with it feel like jailhouse lawyers. Or maybe it's that fucking "problem solved" smugness. In any event, sometimes it's not hard to believe I stopped going to the anniversary celebrations.(Also, the "parties" suck. I mean, I guess technically they are still parties because there is cake, but it was more like an infomercial.) sj, everything will work out for the best.