~mas as needed.
My dating history is primarily distinguished by how little there was of it before I met Hubs. But I'd interpret "invite to apartment" as a sign that the date wants to get to know you better in a way that may or may not be physical. I don't think it's necessarily bad form to try for a goodnight kiss after a first date, as long as you don't insist in the face of resistance.
I can say with some authority that misread signals happen. After 24 years, Hubs and I still misread each other's signals now and then.
Scan~ma for Ginger, Interview~ma for TCG, and Cash~ma for ND & Pix (and everyone else).
Happy birthday, Trudy!
Happy Birthday to Trudy! And to Kara, too!
All the scan~ma in the world to Ginger!
Interview~ma to TCG!
A local nursery--one of the best--is closing down because its owners are retiring. Rather than sell the space and the name, they're just shutting down. It's sad-making. But today is 60% off day, so after my annual physical, we'll run by and see if we can score some large pots and planters for next year.
It's near 90F today, so the window fans are all busily pulling cool air from the woods in the back through the house and exhausting warm air out the front. And after the necessaries, we'll head up into cool green mountain shadow till near-dark or suppertime, whichever comes first.
Well it's not like I'm saying "you invited me in, that means sex, you can't say no now!" I'm saying I was confused, because one set of signals was saying one thing and another was implying something else. It's not like I glommed on and started kissing on her just because she invited me back!
Ooh, Beverly, that sounds lovely. I wish we had some cool-air woods nearby.
meara,
bottom line, I understand where you are coming from. I think most of us would have read the situation the same: we had been conversing with this woman for awhile, spent 4 hours with her, she invites us up for coffee. I would have expected some kissing. I mean, damn, why the fuck not?
Sex - who knows? but a kiss seems like it was invited!
This situation tells me not that you were in the "wrong" for attempting a kiss, but that your date was a bit blind to how the situation might be read by you. It's wild.
First, scan~ma to Ginger and happy birthday, Trudy! interview~ma to TCG, and money~ma to Pix and ND.
Second, I need to practice my sushi rolling. The roll I just made was... unlike anything I ever bought before. But still kindda yummy.
My dating history is primarily distinguished by how little there was of it before I met Hubs. But I'd interpret "invite to apartment" as a sign that the date wants to get to know you better in a way that may or may not be physical. I don't think it's necessarily bad form to try for a goodnight kiss after a first date, as long as you don't insist in the face of resistance.
Yep. I mean, besides meeting Hubs, but this is what I think too.
Well it's not like I'm saying "you invited me in, that means sex, you can't say no now!" I'm saying I was confused, because one set of signals was saying one thing and another was implying something else.
I get it. However, I back off or ask when confused. Which happens a lot when I'm dating. Not that I'm dating much, and still.
I just got ear wormed with "A Fine Romance."
