meara,

bottom line, I understand where you are coming from. I think most of us would have read the situation the same: we had been conversing with this woman for awhile, spent 4 hours with her, she invites us up for coffee. I would have expected some kissing. I mean, damn, why the fuck not?

Sex - who knows? but a kiss seems like it was invited!

This situation tells me not that you were in the "wrong" for attempting a kiss, but that your date was a bit blind to how the situation might be read by you. It's wild.

First, scan~ma to Ginger and happy birthday, Trudy! interview~ma to TCG, and money~ma to Pix and ND.

Second, I need to practice my sushi rolling. The roll I just made was... unlike anything I ever bought before. But still kindda yummy.

My dating history is primarily distinguished by how little there was of it before I met Hubs. But I'd interpret "invite to apartment" as a sign that the date wants to get to know you better in a way that may or may not be physical. I don't think it's necessarily bad form to try for a goodnight kiss after a first date, as long as you don't insist in the face of resistance.

Yep. I mean, besides meeting Hubs, but this is what I think too.

Well it's not like I'm saying "you invited me in, that means sex, you can't say no now!" I'm saying I was confused, because one set of signals was saying one thing and another was implying something else.

I get it. However, I back off or ask when confused. Which happens a lot when I'm dating. Not that I'm dating much, and still.

I just got ear wormed with "A Fine Romance."

Second, I need to practice my sushi rolling. The roll I just made was... unlike anything I ever bought before. But still kindda yummy.

The nice thing about practicing sushi rolls is that one gets to eat the attempts, and hey, it's sushi! That said, I'd love to go out for a good sushi dinner sometime soon.

I did some sushi rolling a couple of years ago, and unfortunately everything involved in cooking the rice and prepping the fillings made me less interested in eating the sushi. I should have done the prep with a longer break before the eating.

Parents of 20-year-olds, I found this while looking for other things for my classes, and I thought you might find her perspective interesting.

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Scan~ma for Ginger, interview~ma for TCG, cash~ma for Pix and ND... and the rest of us too.

meara, I hate the dating thing. I'm ready to concede the fact that I will be alone for the rest of my life. I'm sorry there was awkwardness.

Meara, like I said--I totally get frustration/disappointment on your part. I just don't know what she did wrong herself. It's just unfortunate.

Thanks for the ~ma. TCG thinks the interview went okay, but they probably want him to have a specific degree that is not his current degree. And we're not sure that taking on the time and expense of another degree while also trying to have a baby is a great idea.

Do any of our lawyer buffistas currently work in a law firm that deals with land use or real estate law?

Thanks for all the ~ma.

The results of the PET scan are mixed.

The good news is that there is no spread beyond the bone.

The bad news is that my tumor markers have gone up and there are three areas of bone lesions that have become more active and gotten a bit larger. He is recommending that I have radiation treatment to these areas. He wants to have me stay on tamoxifen for now and see how I do. I will continue to have blood tests, which include the tumor markers, every month, along with the monthly infusion I have for my bones. I'll have another scan in December. At least that one won't cost any more, since, with your help, I've met my deductible for the year. If things go the wrong way, I'll go on more chemo. The usual progression is to get type of chemo until it stops working, then move to another, then another.

The swelling from the lymphedema in my right arm has gotten worse. I've been trying to ignore it, but it's time for me to start dealing with shit.

I have to mumble about some of this with my mother, clients, and the like, but I've decided that I need to face it head on somewhere. If those of you who faced cancer with loved ones don't want reminders in thread, I can move this to somewhere else like my long-ignored LJ.

Y'all have helped me so much through the years. I'm hoping to lean on you again as I play "Ginger beats the odds."

I'm trying to craft a thank you worthy of the tremendous support on the YouCaring page. I particularly cherish all the nice things y'all said. I feel like George Bailey.