Ooh, Beverly, that sounds lovely. I wish we had some cool-air woods nearby.
Let him do his thing, and then you get him out. No messing with him for laughs.
Mal ,'Ariel'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Kate P. - Sep 11, 2013 10:21:21 am PDT #4556 of 30002
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
le nubian - Sep 11, 2013 10:39:04 am PDT #4557 of 30002
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
meara,
bottom line, I understand where you are coming from. I think most of us would have read the situation the same: we had been conversing with this woman for awhile, spent 4 hours with her, she invites us up for coffee. I would have expected some kissing. I mean, damn, why the fuck not?
Sex - who knows? but a kiss seems like it was invited!
This situation tells me not that you were in the "wrong" for attempting a kiss, but that your date was a bit blind to how the situation might be read by you. It's wild.
Shir - Sep 11, 2013 10:40:44 am PDT #4558 of 30002
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
First, scan~ma to Ginger and happy birthday, Trudy! interview~ma to TCG, and money~ma to Pix and ND.
Second, I need to practice my sushi rolling. The roll I just made was... unlike anything I ever bought before. But still kindda yummy.
My dating history is primarily distinguished by how little there was of it before I met Hubs. But I'd interpret "invite to apartment" as a sign that the date wants to get to know you better in a way that may or may not be physical. I don't think it's necessarily bad form to try for a goodnight kiss after a first date, as long as you don't insist in the face of resistance.
Yep. I mean, besides meeting Hubs, but this is what I think too.
Well it's not like I'm saying "you invited me in, that means sex, you can't say no now!" I'm saying I was confused, because one set of signals was saying one thing and another was implying something else.
I get it. However, I back off or ask when confused. Which happens a lot when I'm dating. Not that I'm dating much, and still.
Burrell - Sep 11, 2013 10:42:18 am PDT #4559 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
I just got ear wormed with "A Fine Romance."
Burrell - Sep 11, 2013 10:45:08 am PDT #4560 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Second, I need to practice my sushi rolling. The roll I just made was... unlike anything I ever bought before. But still kindda yummy.
The nice thing about practicing sushi rolls is that one gets to eat the attempts, and hey, it's sushi! That said, I'd love to go out for a good sushi dinner sometime soon.
Connie Neil - Sep 11, 2013 11:11:12 am PDT #4561 of 30002
brillig
I did some sushi rolling a couple of years ago, and unfortunately everything involved in cooking the rice and prepping the fillings made me less interested in eating the sushi. I should have done the prep with a longer break before the eating.
le nubian - Sep 11, 2013 11:29:36 am PDT #4562 of 30002
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
Parents of 20-year-olds, I found this while looking for other things for my classes, and I thought you might find her perspective interesting.
Maria - Sep 11, 2013 11:33:55 am PDT #4563 of 30002
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Scan~ma for Ginger, interview~ma for TCG, cash~ma for Pix and ND... and the rest of us too.
meara, I hate the dating thing. I'm ready to concede the fact that I will be alone for the rest of my life. I'm sorry there was awkwardness.
§ ita § - Sep 11, 2013 11:43:42 am PDT #4564 of 30002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Meara, like I said--I totally get frustration/disappointment on your part. I just don't know what she did wrong herself. It's just unfortunate.
sj - Sep 11, 2013 1:32:40 pm PDT #4565 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Thanks for the ~ma. TCG thinks the interview went okay, but they probably want him to have a specific degree that is not his current degree. And we're not sure that taking on the time and expense of another degree while also trying to have a baby is a great idea.
Do any of our lawyer buffistas currently work in a law firm that deals with land use or real estate law?