Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Go get 'em Laura!
Steph, I agree with the others. If there is something you *aren't* comfy with, maybe mention that??? Not sure. Little out of my wheelhouse. But, given what I know about you, sounds like the perfect job!
He doesn't honestly get that being tired because you stayed up too late playing games is not an excuse to miss work.
Hmm. Well, there are times I get into a game, and play until the wee hours. But, still drag myself out of bed and go to work. Or, do it on the weekends. C'mon boys! Snap out of it! If there is any inclination of maybe doing military service, I would encourage that. If the job hunt is that hard in your area, it's a job. And it will teach them life skills, and displine. If they flunk out of boot camp, they flunk out of boot camp. Try the Air Force, I hear their boot camp is the easiest, plus I hear they have the best food. Lord knows, it helped my Uncle, from what Mom says.
She's lovely, Steph. And a great writer -- I worked on a few of the stories she did for Deena and they were wonderful.
If you're doing editing for erotica, do you get the option of saying "Bodies don't bend like that"?
Right now I am thinking I might pack him up and move him in with my brother on the west coast of FL for a while. My brother worked in rehab for decades and has done all that B is doing and more in his youth. He has MS and frankly it would be good for him to have my son around because he falls sometimes.
It could help to have someone reality check him, and to disrupt his regular habits. Do you think he'd stay?
He doesn't honestly get that being tired because you stayed up too late playing games is not an excuse to miss work.
Lord, our former employee has this attitude in spades. Like, full-on Kanye "You should be honored by my lateness/that I would even show up to this fake shit." Hey dummy, we all started at your wages and we ALL got raises within a month. Without asking. If you haven't gotten one, it's because you haven't earned one. Thank goodness he's gone, I just wish it hadn't been with such a spectacular self-injury.
Amy and Laura, I'm so sorry you are both going through this. It is so frustrating watching people you love in a downward spiral and not be able to do anything.
Laura, I think your son living with your brother would be a great idea, if your brother would be up for it. Family, but maybe out of the current reaction loop, plus your son having a sense of responsibility while being there--it could be just the ticket.
Total agreement.
Actually, everything in Calli's post is gold, in my mind.
Laura, I too offer an ear, free of anything other than care for you.
I so feel for you. My wicked-step-sister (the sobriquet might indicate how I feel about her) dealt with very similar issues but with infinitely less logic and wisdom than you are coping.
You are a wonderful mother and I hate that you have this challenge.
Interesting that the military comes up today. CJ has been talking to an Army recruiter at school and has him coming over here this afternoon to talk with me. I have mixed feeling about CJ going into the Army but I'm having a rough time articulating them. He has agreed that he doesn't want to sign anything until he graduates, which is in 2 years. So I'm not really sure of the purpose of the visit with the recruiter.
Help me formulate some questions...please?
"Are you sure?"
"You realize that you totally don't get to quit or pick the one with the condos, right?"
Suzi, don't sign anything now. But questions to ask would be what kind of jobs CJ could do that would guarantee growth. In other words, don't go into the military as an enlisted man with no career direction.
When my brother joined the Navy, he knew from the outset he wanted to do languages. So he started off at the language school, learned Farsi, all that, and worked his way up. He's been an officer for a while now, and does specialized intel work. So you want to ask what kind of a path CJ might have that matches his skills and his interests.
Well, yeah, maybe it would be a good fit with his firefighting interests...I just know that when I was a kid I just...you know, got psyched about thing without knowledge(I miss that now, actually, things aren't exciting anymore.)
In other words, don't go into the military as an enlisted man with no career direction.
Totally this.
My DexH was a superstar in the Navy for as long as he could hack it...I've told his court martial story here before...it ended magically well. But, he went in out of desperation, with no clear path...which might have been the problem in the end.
My father and grandfather were in the Navy.
One of the great things about my grandfather was that he got recruited as an athlete and spent the majority of his early career being shipped around the world to run in track and field events. No combat. Because he was an engineer, by the time his track career came to an end, he was able to settle into Mare Island (CA), fixing wiring in docked ships.
In other words, I concur with the 'have a plan' plan.
CJ's background makes him, at a very young age, MUCH more eligible to choose his own path.
