Funny thing about black and white. You mix it together and you get gray. And it doesn't matter how much white you try and put back in, you're never gonna get anything but gray.

Lilah ,'Destiny'


Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Zenkitty - Feb 14, 2017 8:10:50 am PST #29162 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

Sounds like an interview to me too, Suzi.

Speaking of which... other people who've done group therapy, have you ever had an interview for joining a group? My therapist suggested joining this group, so I contacted the woman who runs it, and she asked me to come talk to her and the other therapist who runs it. I got there, and it was seriously like an interview. The group was full and they were interviewing me to see if I'd get a place on the waiting list, and how high my place would be. They kept saying they wanted to make sure I'd fit with the group, which I get, but I left feeling like I'd failed a test. They never called me back. It was weird. I've done group therapy before, and those times, you just had to show up. It wasn't like, this is AA and you should be in OA, you don't need this type of support, it was more like an exclusive therapy club. Has anyone else encountered this?


EpicTangent - Feb 14, 2017 9:19:53 am PST #29163 of 30002
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty

Never heard of it, but my experience is pretty much nil. Gotta say though, sounds like a great way to make people who already feel bad about themselves feel worse.


Toddson - Feb 14, 2017 10:40:15 am PST #29164 of 30002
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"

Sounds like a good way to get people to find a different therapist.


amyth - Feb 14, 2017 11:07:00 am PST #29165 of 30002
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen

I used to do screening interviews for the rape/sexual assault/child sexual abuse support (not therapy) groups that I did, to screen out for things like active suicide ideation, personality disorders that were outside my skillset to handle (but I'm not a trained therapist), etc. But presumably the fact that your therapist referred you to the group and thought you'd be a good fit would carry some weight.

All that aside, they definitely should have called you back and explained exactly why you didn't get into the group, if that was in fact the case. Anything else is downright unprofessional.


sj - Feb 14, 2017 2:58:00 pm PST #29166 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

I am tipsy on prosecco!


Laura - Feb 14, 2017 3:42:54 pm PST #29167 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.

Whee! Tipsy!


smonster - Feb 14, 2017 3:45:36 pm PST #29168 of 30002
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

15 out of 50. Social anxiety probably accounts for the points I got. I love being around people! Except they make me anxious. But then, I make me anxious, so...

I think I did interviews for the DBT group I was in. It's been a while, though.


WindSparrow - Feb 14, 2017 4:35:28 pm PST #29169 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

I think I pulled a rib muscle. Very mild discomfort until I move in certain ways or take a deep breath or poke the area. Even then it's not particularly painful, just more discomfort, where one boob is attached to my body, sort of where an underwire goes. Last week I started doing some qi gong exercises. I have not really been sore from that, but yesterday I was feeling really achy all over and made myself do the exercises again. I was thinking the movement would make me feel better. It didn't. Now with the addition of post nasal drip, congestion and sore throat, the body ache was viral in origin and the rib muscle thing is a result of pushing when I should have just stayed in bed.


Steph L. - Feb 14, 2017 5:15:34 pm PST #29170 of 30002
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

I am tipsy on prosecco!

I am tipsy from one dang pint of cider. I don't drink a lot anymore, but usually 1 pint doesn't make me tipsy, just kind of...slightly fuzzy edges. But then I remembered (after I finished the pint, of course), that I'm on antibiotics, so that's probably a factor. Oooops.

Two people in my improv class handed out Valentines -- one woman MADE sushi Valentines (out of craft paper, to be clear; they weren't actual edible sushi, which is a damn shame) and one guy found 80s music-themed Valentines (mine is David Byrne and it says "My heart Byrnes for you").

Y'all have NO IDEA how many typos I just corrected. After only 1 lousy pint. Sheesh.


lisah - Feb 14, 2017 5:28:15 pm PST #29171 of 30002
Punishingly Intricate

15 out of 50. Social anxiety probably accounts for the points I got. I love being around people! Except they make me anxious. But then, I make me anxious, so...
Ha! Same!