Inara: Mal, this isn't the ancient sea. You don't have to go down with your ship. Mal: She ain't going down. She ain't going anywhere.

'Out Of Gas'


Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


quester - Jan 19, 2017 3:07:56 pm PST #28805 of 30002
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.

You guys, I need to whine.

I don't know if I explained this here or on Facebook, but I have been traumatized by my management company. They took over the building from a friend of my sister and it has been one thing after another.

I had bed bugs for the first time in my living in apartments life. They heat treated. Then they charged me $650 for it that I didn't actually sign a permission for. but I don't have the wherewithal to move, so I made a deal to pay a little every month in addition to my rent. I pay electronically and the rent goes in automatically just before the 1st.

So they keep applying my rent checks to the heat treatment and then applying the heat treatment payment as my rent and then sending me what I perceive as threatening messages about eviction proceedings if I don't pay the rent. I keep having to correct them and it's been an emotional strain, to say the least.

So I decided, for the sake of my sanity to ask my oldest sister for help to pay the whole thing off before the next rent check goes in. I would never have asked but I was so upset about the first "eviction" phone call which I heard right before the family Christmas gathering. And I was a mess. And she offered to help. So she's sending me money.

All good, sigh of relief. Then I wake up this morning and find 3 new bites. The damned bugs are back! and the management company just had exterminators supposedly come through the building to spray a couple of weeks ago!

So, my bedding is in the laundry and i am just really tired. So very tired.


SuziQ - Jan 19, 2017 4:07:43 pm PST #28806 of 30002
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

Bed bugs are exhausting alone. Management company badness is its own set of exhausting. Combined = ugh. I'm sorry you are going through this.


smonster - Jan 19, 2017 4:53:34 pm PST #28807 of 30002
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

~ma for your mom, Epic.

quester, that sucks hard. Eff them.

WindSparrow, it's his food bowl. The water bowl is in my room and therefore out of his purview. It's licked clean about 15 seconds after I fill it, so I see no need to wash it. And yeah, I can lift Frankie if I have to, but it's not practical on a daily basis.

I am trying to go high when he goes passive aggressive control freak, but it's hard. I'm doing my best to be compassionate and choose my battles while still standing up for myself. I'm trying to react to each thing he does as if a friend I care about had done it.

God, trying to be a good person is exhausting.


quester - Jan 19, 2017 5:11:10 pm PST #28808 of 30002
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.

ugh, smonster! bad roommates are the worst!


EpicTangent - Jan 19, 2017 7:07:00 pm PST #28809 of 30002
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty

Sonofabitch! Damn laptop just ate my longass post, then my summation post, then the post bitching about those two losses.

To sum up AGAIN, Mom's okay, no injuries, all the cars are still driveable, but will require some body work.

Mom's kinda freaked out, understandably, at her 2nd accident in 2 months, though this one could have happened to any one(ironically, I did pretty much the exact same thing about 20 years ago, while driving her car), and wondering if she should just stop driving altogether. Which I'm torn about, because I want her to be safe (and I pay her car insurance), but I don't want her to be stuck in the house (between her back problems and feet and legs, she walks with a walker and can't go very far, and public transportation here is near useless) and I can't be her entire social life.

So for right now, we're just in a holding pattern. We're figuring out how to get her to Dr appts next week, and letting her just chill. And waiting to see what this does to the car insurance, which is up for renewal next month.

Yikes, quester, that does sound insanely stressful. Hope you get some relief soon.

smonster, good luck with the continuing to be the bigger person. Hope your roomie gets his cranium out of his rectum real soon.


Hil R. - Jan 19, 2017 7:29:18 pm PST #28810 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

Ow. I'm hurting, a lot, and I've only got half a pain pill left, because I was stupid and forgot to refill them before they were gone.


Laura - Jan 20, 2017 2:38:38 am PST #28811 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.

Oh Epic, it is good to hear there are no injuries, but I am sorry that your mother's confidence in driving has suffered. My mom pretty much stopped driving after she had an accident then stopped altogether when her thumb joints were too weak to turn the key. When you balance the cost of car upkeep including insurance might it be equivalent to having Ubers regularly for getting to appointments?

Hil, I hope you were able to get some sleep.

Dinner with the newly 25 yo went well last night. He is enthused about his job and was in good humor, although stoned enough to make his father concerned.


sj - Jan 20, 2017 3:34:16 am PST #28812 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Epic, I'm so sorry but glad no one was hurt. Tons of ~ma for your mother and for you.

Pain~ma, Hil.

Mom had to cancel today for the second time this week. She was up sick all night. I'm feeling trapped and exhausted. I've been in pain all week, and I just want to be able to take a shower and go to the market.


sj - Jan 20, 2017 3:38:03 am PST #28813 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Tea: and now my friend H has to cancel for this afternoon because she also had the stomach bug. I'm trying not to cry.


Laura - Jan 20, 2017 4:54:10 am PST #28814 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.

I'm sorry, sj. But of course the last thing you want is for germy people to come by. I hope another option presents itself. Also sending some shower~ma and painrelief~ma.