Him deciding who you can have help out with the pets is right off the table. Absurd.

And he doesn't have 100% rights over who can come in the fucking house. Tell him they'll only breathe your 50% of air.

I am angry that anyone could object to Tom & Nora on any level.

Him deciding who you can have help out with the pets is right off the table. Absurd.

Yes. This. Even if you aren't there, the shared spaces in your apartment (which you pay for half of) aren't private, so you having people in to provide a service isn't a violation of his privacy. And the fact that it's Nora and Tom--your friends, people he's met--and not just some random pet sitters off the street, leads me to believe he's just kicking up a fuss to make things difficult for some reason. As if you'd trust him to watch Bella after his past behavior, let alone think to ask!

Well, how is he going to get the meth factory up and running if there are people coming in?

Thanks, everyone. I don't know how to resolve this. I offered to have Tom and Nora over to meet him again, but no dice. And please don't take it personally, Nora. He's just a petty jerk.

I ran errands and went to yoga and I'm still so angry I'm vibrating. I'm not talking about this any more tonight

Somehow everything I say is "arguing," and whatever he says is… not? Every discussion is on his terms and when he decides we're done talking we're done. He got pissy when I asked him (calmly) (and repeatedly) to stop interrupting me.

I think he thinks this is about boundaries and respect, and I think he can't be bothered to do anything he doesn't feel like doing so he finds ways to justify that.

Like, he says he "doesn't want to bond with another dog right now" and that's why he doesn't want to take him out. But he gives him treats, is trying to teach him how to shake, and gives him kisses on the mouth. That doesn't make any sense to me.

t rolls eyes

He's a selfish jerk.

And please don't take it personally, Nora. He's just a petty jerk.

Don't even worry about it.