YAY FOR 1-YEAR-OLD TEA CUPS!

Happy birthday, Miss F.

Thank you for sharing the joy that is your daughter with all of us.

This!!

Happy Birthday ltc and mommyversary (I like that)

My interview got changed until Saturday.

Hippo Birdies, ltc! Thank you--and your mom for posting pictures--for brightening our lives with your gorgeous smile the past year. We look forward to more of the same!

Oh, sj, your LTC is one, today?! Enjoy. It goes way too fast.

Oh, Happy Birthday to a Darling Girl! And Felicitations to the whole Cup Family!

I heart this.

Happy Birthday Little Teacup! (I'm still a Little Teapot. We should totally hang out.)

I'm popping in for some hivemind thoughts.

So. This friend of mine who is, as far as I know, a good and decent fellow, is currently sleeping in my living room.

He went on a grand adventure tour of the country on his motorcycle for a few months and left his old car with me. I rarely drive, but he wanted someone to take care of it, so I did.

When he got back, he dropped from the sky and landed on my doorstep with a casual mention that he had nowhere to stay because our mutual friend, with whom I thought this friend would live until he gets back on his feet, was out of town.

He stayed for three days and then went off to visit someone else where, again, I thought he could stay until...Both of these other places are houses with separate space for guests.

Friend has been coming by to help me with little things related to my own housing struggles, which I won't go into here.

Yesterday, he drops into conversation that he has been living in his car (the one with no a/c) for the last couple of weeks. "In the Walmart parking lot."

It's dangerously hot here. Like WAY hot, so I told him to stay last night.

He hasn't woken up yet, and I suspect he needs sleep more than I need to make noise.

He is clearly depressed, and has a therapist he has not seen. He is in program but is not going to meetings. He qualifies for unemployment, but has not applied.

I've coached him as much as I can, including strategies for reaching out to his family...most of whom he does not connect with well.

There are resources for him. I, personally, cannot support him.

Ideas for quick resources?

I really don't want him to end up in the shelter system, but I'm a bit flummoxed.

Ugh, Bonny, not good for either of you. Obviously he needs to get back on track in many ways. Tough love mothering to make him take responsibility? Making him make the lists of options to examine in detail? No idea on what actual resources are available.

When depression or other challenges fox someone's executive functioning, it really makes things exponentially harder, doesn't it? Unfortunately the only tool I have for helping someone else's executive function is "let's do it together". Sometimes once they get moving, they can keep moving. Sometimes it's more like you have to do it all for them, dragging them along for the ride. But it's one thing when my role in someone's life is as paid caregiver, and another entirely when you have a guy crashing on your sofa.