See, Vera? Dress yourself up; you get taken out somewhere fun.

Jayne ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'


Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


askye - Jul 12, 2016 2:54:12 pm PDT #25400 of 30002
Thrive to spite them

I take Klonopin every day, twice a day. And I forgot it this morning.

I had a plan. I had my stuffed owl, the paced breathing app, Hamilton soundtrack and I figured that woudl be good for an office visit.

But with waking up late and getting stressed about that and from the doctors appointment yesterday I just couldn't. However, decided to call them tomorrow and see if they will be willing to reschedule even though I hung up on them.


sj - Jul 13, 2016 5:15:41 am PDT #25401 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

I wonder if there are any anxiety meds that are safe to take while breastfeeding.

I have people coming over in less than 2 hours. ltc is napping, and I need to make myself and the house semi presentable, but all I want to do is curl up in a ball in the corner and cry.


juliana - Jul 13, 2016 5:47:19 am PDT #25402 of 30002
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…

sj, I'm sorry. My OB/GYN assures me that Ativan (lorazepam) is safe to take while breastfeeding, which has saved my sanity on more than one occasion.


Zenkitty - Jul 13, 2016 6:23:24 am PDT #25403 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

I know a lot of people don't put any stock in herbals, but in case anyone wants it, maybe try passionflower. It "works by increasing levels of a chemical called gamma aminobutyric acid (GABA) in the brain" which is the same thing Valium does. [source, UMD Med Ctr] It's not as strong as a prescription drug, obviously, but I find that two or three capsules of passionflower noticeably takes the edge off my anxiety. It's not expensive and it's available at health/natural food stores and on Amazon. I use Nature's Way. YMMV. IANAD.


sj - Jul 13, 2016 8:53:19 am PDT #25404 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

ltc appears to be fine, but I'm the worst mother ever. I was using her old bassinet as a changing table and she launched herself over the side and onto the floor before I could stop her.


Steph L. - Jul 13, 2016 8:59:06 am PDT #25405 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

sj, there is a 4 month old baby here at the beach, and 15 adults. He stuck his hand in the (soft rubber) blades of a tiny fan despite 15 sets of eyes on him. Babies are going to have mishaps. Please stop the self-loathing. You don't deserve it.


sj - Jul 13, 2016 9:27:33 am PDT #25406 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

I'm sorry. I know. That's one of the reasons I finally called my doctor. I'm just filled with self loathing at the moment.


SuziQ - Jul 13, 2016 9:39:41 am PDT #25407 of 30002
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

I have such a stockpile of bad mom moments. Me standing next to K-Bug right as she dropped baby CJ on his head, on concrete, outside of Costco. Me not taking K-Bug's wrist injury seriously and telling her to ice it for weeks before we finally got it x-rayed and discovered she needed surgery, a bone graft, and a pin.

Both kids are fine, I have a few extra grey hairs (under the purple), and life goes on.

But yes, I'm glad you are talking with your doctor and working to care for yourself. She seems like such a happy baby, so you are doing so much right.


sj - Jul 13, 2016 9:41:13 am PDT #25408 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

People keep trying to give me credit for her being a happy baby, but both me and TCG swear this is just the baby we inherited. She was always like this.


lisah - Jul 13, 2016 9:44:43 am PDT #25409 of 30002
Punishingly Intricate

ugh, sj, I'm not a mom so I haven't had to deal with that particularly awful brand of self loathing but I have been in that brain space. It truly sucks and I'm glad you're going to talk to a doctor about it.

I'm sure every parent can tell a story about their kid doing something dangerous or being hurt while on their watch. A different flavor from your baby's mishap but my dad, an engaged and loving parent, liked to tell us about the time he was sitting in shorts reading the paper and my year-old brother toddled over and chomped on his knee. My dad reflexively kicked and sent my brother flying. Brother is 49 now and totally fine (except for being a Republican).