I think what you can say to your mom and your brother , that you don't want to be in the middle of their disagreements.

maybe even - E is worried about what you said and I dont want oto be telling brother why ....

From the little bit I've talked to my brother he wants her to be a grandparent but because of his schedule and his girlfriends he needs Mom to have a more active role . Also he wants his rules to be his rules. Which makes sense...because ultimately his E's father and he should have the final say (like with how much tv and stuff).

Sort of? I mean, he wants her to be a grandparent but he's the one asking her to act like a parent. It seems like she is making some questionable calls, but also like he is maybe taking advantage of "schedule and girlfriends" to leave a lot of stuff on her plate and then second-guess her when it becomes convenient for him to reengage. I don't really get the 'too busy to get a text' thing from a father, unless she is in the habit of constantly pinging him.

Either way though, other than "are you sure you should have told a seven-year-old all that?" where you feel it's really important, I think "this is between you and him" needs to be your internal mantra. You being the middleman is isn't good for you and it doesn't seem to be helpful in getting the two of them on the same page. I hope you find a way that is easier on you than being referee/sounding board all the time.

Sort of? I mean, he wants her to be a grandparent but he's the one asking her to act like a parent. It seems like she is making some questionable calls, but also like he is maybe taking advantage of "schedule and girlfriends" to leave a lot of stuff on her plate and then second-guess her when it becomes convenient for him to reengage. I don't really get the 'too busy to get a text' thing from a father, unless she is in the habit of constantly pinging him.

Seconding all of this.

ltc isn't being as helpful today with naps. So, I'm just now getting around to eating breakfast.

I'm going to stay out of it. I mentioned that maybe that part of what she said wasn't appropriate and dealt with it the best I can.

I finally got ltc to fall asleep, but she is in her swing. How bad would it be to take a quick shower while she is in the swing?

Go, shower. Unless she is a squirmy worm who can get out of the swing buckles if she wakes up, go for it.

Ugh, good luck, askye. That's a tough situation to be in.

sj, i am not a parent so I have no opinion.

J and I are having dinner tonight! Excited and nervous to meet him. We've been texting back and forth throughout the day. He seems nice and funny and chill. I did ask if he was a werewolf and he said he was more of an animagus.

That's fantastically nerdy!

That's sweet Smonster.

I tried to move her to the bassinet and of course she woke up. So no shower for me. She is a squirmer but I don't think she is capable of unstrapping herself. She seems very secure in there and naps there better during the day, but everything I read says never ever leave them in the swing unattended.

I did ask if he was a werewolf and he said he was more of an animagus.

Oh, I hope he is a good one, he sure knows the lingo.