From the little bit I've talked to my brother he wants her to be a grandparent but because of his schedule and his girlfriends he needs Mom to have a more active role . Also he wants his rules to be his rules. Which makes sense...because ultimately his E's father and he should have the final say (like with how much tv and stuff).

Sort of? I mean, he wants her to be a grandparent but he's the one asking her to act like a parent. It seems like she is making some questionable calls, but also like he is maybe taking advantage of "schedule and girlfriends" to leave a lot of stuff on her plate and then second-guess her when it becomes convenient for him to reengage. I don't really get the 'too busy to get a text' thing from a father, unless she is in the habit of constantly pinging him.

Either way though, other than "are you sure you should have told a seven-year-old all that?" where you feel it's really important, I think "this is between you and him" needs to be your internal mantra. You being the middleman is isn't good for you and it doesn't seem to be helpful in getting the two of them on the same page. I hope you find a way that is easier on you than being referee/sounding board all the time.

Sort of? I mean, he wants her to be a grandparent but he's the one asking her to act like a parent. It seems like she is making some questionable calls, but also like he is maybe taking advantage of "schedule and girlfriends" to leave a lot of stuff on her plate and then second-guess her when it becomes convenient for him to reengage. I don't really get the 'too busy to get a text' thing from a father, unless she is in the habit of constantly pinging him.

Seconding all of this.

ltc isn't being as helpful today with naps. So, I'm just now getting around to eating breakfast.

I'm going to stay out of it. I mentioned that maybe that part of what she said wasn't appropriate and dealt with it the best I can.

I finally got ltc to fall asleep, but she is in her swing. How bad would it be to take a quick shower while she is in the swing?

Go, shower. Unless she is a squirmy worm who can get out of the swing buckles if she wakes up, go for it.

Ugh, good luck, askye. That's a tough situation to be in.

sj, i am not a parent so I have no opinion.

J and I are having dinner tonight! Excited and nervous to meet him. We've been texting back and forth throughout the day. He seems nice and funny and chill. I did ask if he was a werewolf and he said he was more of an animagus.

That's fantastically nerdy!

That's sweet Smonster.

I tried to move her to the bassinet and of course she woke up. So no shower for me. She is a squirmer but I don't think she is capable of unstrapping herself. She seems very secure in there and naps there better during the day, but everything I read says never ever leave them in the swing unattended.

I did ask if he was a werewolf and he said he was more of an animagus.

Oh, I hope he is a good one, he sure knows the lingo.

OMG, After I(and of course, people with a much-wider reach, more influence and etc,)spend twenty years trying to teach journalists that we want "people-first" language, now there are crips bitching and complaining that they don't define themselves that way and etc.In a way, I'm sympathetic, because I've certainly had experiences that it didn't seem like the existing words were quite adequate for... but it is taking every bit of "home training" I ever possessed not to inject the following. a. Please don't drive the reporters insane and then bitch because nobody covers us.
b. Of course, there is not an umbrella word for every facet of a human's life experience...that's why we have names and shit.(of course, somebody else gets to that first, too)

c. Can we please just *pick one* so this arcane debate can die in my lifetime? I used to have an opinion, but now I don't even care, just so we're not changing the collective mind every two minutes...I nominate the Ari Goldesque "special fuckin' snowflake" but send me a memo, and I'll go with whatever Gimptitude at Large decides.

d. I've tried, because some of you get SO upset but I don't hear much difference between "woman with a disability" and "disabled woman". Maybe more between "woman with cerebral palsy" and "cerebral palsied woman" but as far as I know people don't say that, which is probably a good thing.

e. You know people are just going to snort and call it "politically correct" anyway right?