Gun in your house with out anyone talking to you .

no fucking way

It doesn't matter how you feel about guns, guns are not toys .

even if CJ was an adult - unless he is on the lease - - not without your ok.

A gun?! Wow. That seems deliberately provocative to me.

Yikes, Suzi. Has CJ ever handled or fired a gun before? Had he ever previously expressed interest in owning one? I mean, just how out of left field was this??

Whatever his previous experience with guns, obviously it is NOT OK for someone to give him a gun without checking with you first, at least not while he is (a) legally a minor and (b) living in your house. I'm just wondering where the idea came from in the first place.

A few months back, K-Bug, the bf, and CJ were talking about hunting. The bf made a comment that someday maybe he would buy CJ a rifle. And that was about it for foreshadowing.

He has fired guns before, target shooting. I have looked up the state laws and there is no gun registration or background checks required for rifles. Minors can possess rifles (with or without parental permission according to the law).

We don't have a gun case but the bf took the bolt and gave CJ a gun lock (goes through part of the gun and makes it impossible to fire). My thought of the morning is to get the bolt back from the bf or K-Bug and give that part to KCD or hide it in my room. Take that bit of "power" away from the bf.

I've also tried to look up the price of the rifle they gave him and DAMN...how the heck did they afford that?

I am guessing that liability still is yours.

and once again -even if you feel ok about guns, it is does not mean you want one in the house.

And even if you are ok with a gun in the house- i'm assuming there would be a few disscusion with CJ before you got it.

Man, Suzi, I don't know how I'd deal with that if I were you. At the very least, it just shows a massive lack of forethought on their part.

Steph, how are you doing?

I'm okay. Now that work is all finished, I'm 95% less anxiety-wracked. Because it's done, you know? Nothing more to anticipate. I still worry about finding a new job, but it seems that most of my debilitating anxiety was from waiting for the end of my job.

I'm still concerned about being shafted on severance, but I'm oddly more or less at peace with that, because I have zero control over what they decide to give us.

Things keep breaking ever since my last day -- $900 to replace the a/c compressor in my car, my cell phone is breaking (literally, the case is cracked and falling apart; I don't remember dropping it, but obviously I did, and the lesson here is maybe don't buy the cheapest dumbphone Cincinnati Bell has to offer) -- and that's stressful, because I need to keep expenses down, but I can't really do anything about that. Except get an indestructible cell phone.

I feel like I need to be going at full speed to have a new job by next week. But what I really need is a little bit of downtime. And I feel guilty about that. So I keep making lists of things to fill my day with. And it's only Day 2. I just don't want Tim to realize, with less than 2 months to go to the wedding, that he doesn't want to marry a lazy, shiftless, unemployable deadbeat.

And, I guess, I don't want my worst fear to be confirmed, which is that I *am* a lazy, shiftless, unemployable deadbeat. Which makes it hard to let myself have a little downtime to decompress.

I feel like I need to be going at full speed to have a new job by next week

I don't know how to break it to you, Tep, but the job market has changed a bit in the last 18 years. So...it's gonna take a little while. I'd advise doing a little freelance between now and the wedding while job hunting as a side gig.

the job market has changed a bit in the last 18 years.

Noooooo!

Look, I realize I'm NOT going to have a new job by next week (chief among the reasons is that I don't even have my resume together). I'm just saying how my lizard brain is making me feel about it. Two different things.

Take some time to decompress. When you're ready, we'll get your resume and cover up to speed. No worries.

Schedule the down time.

I don't know what your usual schedule is - -but I can say that friday and Saturday - bad days to look at craig's list.

Do those one or two things that niggle in the back of you mind ( go to the gym more often , clean out that closet, explore new ways to cook) Things that you will not be able to do when you go back to work - but will be things that are taking care of your self and positive.

Start tellng yourself stories- so when you you walk into an interiew you have answers to those questions - when did have a coflict with a co-worker and how did you solve it? how did you deal with a difficult client? what do like about working with a team? what is the worst thing about you last job....

and when you decide on down time - Say - I need an hour at least , but I might need more...in an hour I will decide...

But mostly I am glad to hear that the worst of the anxiety has passed.