Oh, quester. I have so been there and done that and been backed into exactly that corner, as have so many of us.
I'd rather stay home and watch television. It's often funnier than killing stuff.
Anya ,'Dirty Girls'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
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JZ - Sep 23, 2015 5:33:24 am PDT #21730 of 30002
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Laura - Sep 23, 2015 6:18:37 am PDT #21731 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
{{Quester}} As JZ said, so many of us have BTDT and can feel the stress and anxiety. I hope that today is a much better day and that resolution comes quickly.
lisah - Sep 23, 2015 7:16:08 am PDT #21732 of 30002
Punishingly Intricate
Sending love and good thoughts for you, Quester.
askye - Sep 23, 2015 9:29:20 am PDT #21733 of 30002
Thrive to spite them
quester I'm really sorry you are going through all of that.
Connie Neil - Sep 23, 2015 9:42:33 am PDT #21734 of 30002
brillig
One of Hubby's nephews ran into Faux-Son at an SCA event out of state, and he said he wanted a memento of Hubby. Specifically, the wolf helmet Hubby made and wore. I've been quite happy to let people take things as mementos, but not that helmet. It's probably the thing that speaks most clearly of who he was--which makes it a perfect memento.
I'm quite content to say "No, sorry, not that," but there's still a part of me wrestling with "How selfish of you, he would take care of it, it's not like you're really going to do anything with it." I'm really very tired of this assumption down in my soul that I'm not entitled to things, like, oh, a decent living space that meets my needs, beloved things, the simple right to be in the space that I am at.
The thought of giving up that helmet makes me cry, but I'm still scolding myself for disappointing an honest, heart-felt request.
Ginger - Sep 23, 2015 10:06:43 am PDT #21735 of 30002
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
quester, I'm sorry you've got this added stress.
Your feelings are as important as his, Connie. Let him know you're leaving it to him in your will.
EpicTangent - Sep 23, 2015 11:03:25 am PDT #21736 of 30002
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
Aw, quester, that is a LOT. I'm sorry you're so overloaded, but can definitely empathize. I hope you're able to find the next step that will lead to the path to the other side of this pile of stress and suck.
Connie, he was Your Husband. You're allowed first dibs on whatever mementos are him to you.
sj - Sep 23, 2015 11:05:40 am PDT #21737 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
quester, I'm so sorry. That's a lot of stress. I hope you're able to find your way out of it soon.
Connie, he was Your Husband. You're allowed first dibs on whatever mementos are him to you.
Definitely this. You have every right to keep something that is that important to you.
erikaj - Sep 23, 2015 11:05:58 am PDT #21738 of 30002
Always Anti-fascist!
I'm sure he was just thinking "Well, I could ask," and will not take offense if you keep it.
Connie Neil - Sep 23, 2015 11:11:34 am PDT #21739 of 30002
brillig
At least the request came in second-hand, so I didn't go all surprised/snarly at him--which may be why the request did come in second hand.