Aw, quester, that is a LOT. I'm sorry you're so overloaded, but can definitely empathize. I hope you're able to find the next step that will lead to the path to the other side of this pile of stress and suck.

Connie, he was Your Husband. You're allowed first dibs on whatever mementos are him to you.

quester, I'm so sorry. That's a lot of stress. I hope you're able to find your way out of it soon.

Connie, he was Your Husband. You're allowed first dibs on whatever mementos are him to you.

Definitely this. You have every right to keep something that is that important to you.

I'm sure he was just thinking "Well, I could ask," and will not take offense if you keep it.

At least the request came in second-hand, so I didn't go all surprised/snarly at him--which may be why the request did come in second hand.

Yeah, what they said, Connie.

I'm really very tired of this assumption down in my soul that I'm not entitled to things

You damn well are; you deserve all the good things. I hope you can banish that little demon.

A few years ago I joined AARP and, as a result, get the AARP Bulletin. The latest issue had an article that upset me. Basically, it was about older people getting addicted to prescription painkillers and cites one woman who was on huge doses of something (don't remember which particular drug) and ended up going through detox and then losing weight and going through physical therapy and on an exercise program which took care of her pain.

It's just ... remembering what ita went through and all the stories I hear, and my own experiences with chronic pain ... I've heard stories that people are denied prescription painkillers - not necessarily because their medical people don't want to give it to them (which does happen), but sometimes because they're afraid of the DEA taking action to shut down their practice.

I'm thinking of writing in to them but I'm kind of wary to shake that particular boat in fear of having my access to my painkillers either shut off or reduced.

I hope you can banish that little demon.

They're are dueling impulses in my soul: one a Buddhist monk who continually preaches that possession are a burden and I should live a life of spare purity. The other one says "Blenheim Palace--yeah, that'll be big enough for the books and furniture and art and comics and collectables and puzzles."

I've heard stories that people are denied prescription painkillers - not necessarily because their medical people don't want to give it to them (which does happen), but sometimes because they're afraid of the DEA taking action to shut down their practice.

Hubby regularly had to account for all the heavy drugs he was prescribed, and the pain clinic was often investigated for malfeasance. I got in a huge online argument once with someone whose brother killed himself on oxycontin, and the sibling was wailing that the government needed to ban that level of narcotic because "no one needs those kinds of drugs, they can get by with lesser ones, they're all just addicts."

Grrrr

Oxy is kind of dangerous. Also, it sucks/is hard to imagine that anyone hurts that much.(I have a special grudge about that one though because during a state visit it came up...who knows why, I get so nervous at those things, I Say Shit, like a Joe Biden ramble, and in the midst of it, I mentioned that cops call it "hillbilly heroin" and I guess he came from somewhere where there is a sting to the h-word, because I did try to apologize, but it didn't help.

Oxy is kind of dangerous.

It is, but it's also an incredibly useful medication and is safe as long as it's used as prescribed.

That sounded a little preachy. I don't mean it to be.

Also, it sucks/is hard to imagine that anyone hurts that much.

Yeah. Nobody should have to live with that.