You want him where you can reach him relatively easily. Distance is distance, no matter how "easy" it is to reach out to people far away.
Come on out, River. The nice man wants to kidnap you.
Simon ,'Objects In Space'
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Connie Neil - Nov 18, 2014 6:26:54 am PST #14433 of 30002
brillig
brenda m - Nov 18, 2014 6:29:13 am PST #14434 of 30002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
I think it's important to be able to say it out loud, at least once, where it won't hurt anybody or blow back.
Steph L. - Nov 18, 2014 6:34:23 am PST #14435 of 30002
I look more rad than Lutheranism
It IS an amazing opportunity for them. I'm not *just* selfish; I think it's a great thing for them. But I'm also selfish. It's just hard.
beekaytee - Nov 18, 2014 7:11:40 am PST #14436 of 30002
Compassionately intolerant
Honestly, Steph, I'd think it was a little odd if you DIDN'T feel the way you are feeling.
Sounds natural and appropriate.
The only part that doesn't make as much sense to me is feeling bad about feeling bad when the first feeling bad is probably enough.
Almost all of my significant people live far-far elsewhere. I've adjusted but it still sucks sometimes.
DavidS - Nov 18, 2014 7:28:40 am PST #14437 of 30002
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Well, Matilda wasn't too happy about Emmett's great opportunity to go to college.
Frankly, while I love for my loved ones to have amazing adventures, I don't want them to move too far away. Proximity matters, way more than we credit it.
And it's irrational too. I'm a little bummed Glamcookie is leaving California, and it's not like we've even gotten together on my annual trips to L.A. (Don't worry, Glam! I'm still really happy for you guys.)
Zenkitty - Nov 18, 2014 7:39:31 am PST #14438 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Steph, the fact that you feel sad and selfish for not wanting him to be so far away means you have a brother that you love and want to be near you, and that's a good thing. You're not a jerk, you'd only be a jerk if that were ALL you felt and you said it to him.
Dana - Nov 18, 2014 7:43:00 am PST #14439 of 30002
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
As humans, we can feel lots of things at once. It can be a great thing for a brother and sad for you (and maybe scary and a little sad for him too), all at the same time.
Laura - Nov 18, 2014 7:58:53 am PST #14440 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
I strongly suspect your brother has mixed feelings too!
Glamcookie - Nov 18, 2014 8:26:52 am PST #14441 of 30002
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
I'm a little bummed Glamcookie is leaving California, and it's not like we've even gotten together on my annual trips to L.A. (Don't worry, Glam! I'm still really happy for you guys.)
Aw. It's definitely bittersweet for us. I know it's for the best, but I've been in CA for my entire adult life (16-44). It will be hard to get on that plane for the last time.
Steph, you're not a jerk or selfish. You just love your family and will miss them.
Burrell - Nov 18, 2014 8:37:08 am PST #14442 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Steph, everyone is right, there's nothing wrong about the kind of selfishness you describe. We *all* feel that kind of ambivalence about someone else's job at some point. His moving is a loss for you, you are allowed to feel it and acknowledge it and not feel like a selfish jerk for it.
But I do know that feeling. When I was having trouble getting pregnant (with F) and my friend called to tell me she was pregnant, and first month they had tried too? Happy for her, but tears for me, and feeling very selfish.