Thank you all so much. It's a huge help to know that others have been/are in similar straits, with some of the same worries (I know my mom would FLIP THE FUCK OUT if she knew I was carrying debt). I also can also now tell myself that there are things that I spent some of that money on that I do NOT in any way regret.
Andi, I especially appreciate your point about not being ready to deal with it and now being able to move on with it wholeheartedly.
I cannot tell you how much the support of this group means to me, or how much it means that I can come to you all with a situation like this and get loving and meaningful support.
Im in debt don't really have savings. I have a 41 plan and I sick at bugeting. Basically I live pay check to paycheck and I work in retail at 41 yes old. Oh and I need my dad's help to pay part of my therapy copay.
And I end up needing to talk to my therapist about how lousy it all ffeels.plus I just realized I've been paying on credit card 2 weeks late because u mixed up the due date and have been racking up fees.
I'm right there with you Anne. Unemployment and unexpected medical bills put me in a huge gaping hole and I freak out if I think about it too much.
Let's not talk about how satisfying to the pride being on benefits for over twenty years is not.
Someone who I decided I know longer want to hang out with stopped by with a box full of expensive food. I did not let her in. I thanked her for the thought but refused to take the food in. She left it on my porch. After she drove off, I brought it in so cats would not get the salmon. Am I obliged to donate to food to a food banks or something if I don't want to renew the friendship? Material generosity has always been a substitute on her part for good manners and basic consideration. So I definitely to don't want to deal with her again.
You should donate it somewhere and ask them to send her a letter of acknowledgment.
Turns out none of our local charity places will accept perishables in open containers (which makes sense). So neighbors are about to get a bonaza. I'll have to write the note passing on their thank yous,
I'll have to write the note passing on their thank yous
I don't think you should, as that would just be feeding the beast. You refused her visit, you told her you did not want the food, and you don't want to deal with her again. ::shrugs:: So don't.
I am so sick of meetings. I can't get anything done if I always have to go to meetings!
Yeah, there's no call for that at all.
