I love the idea of bearing withness. It's a beautiful way of describing empathy.
Harmony: Somebody remembered to pick me up the sweetest unicorn. Guess someone was feeling guilty for standing me up in tenth grade. Brad: What? Had to get her something. She sired me. Peaches: Sire-whipped.
'Beneath You'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Burrell - Jul 05, 2014 8:03:37 am PDT #11937 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Connie Neil - Jul 05, 2014 8:42:21 am PDT #11938 of 30002
brillig
Often when I'm talking to my family, I want to shoo them away and come onto the board. There is experience here, and I've watched so much of it happen. The great tapestry.
I'm better. The waves are still very rough, but there is a shoreline appearing every now and then, and the rocks aren't quite as sharp. It hasn't even been forty-eight hours. Humans are resilient, and I am tough, but it makes me a little nervous. But again, humanity is resilient, and most people aren't in that level of agony for long.
As has always been said, busyness helps. Voices help. I try to keep my mind quiet, just doing what needs done.
It was kind of weird, I put on a disk of Castle, let myself be involved in it, and about the 4th episode, a lot of the terror went away. I guess I was finally able to get the hooks out of my mind and let them wither.
Shadow is snuggling me more, though I don't do it right. I'm supposed to spend more time napping with him. It's weird to be worrying about the mourning process of a cat. Though many here understand that well.
Liese S. - Jul 05, 2014 8:45:23 am PDT #11939 of 30002
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
You can be tough, but Connie, you also don't have to be. You experience this exactly the way you do and it will be ok. You don't have to be anyone's idea of ok or better or grieving enough or too much or anything. Do you, don't worry about anyone else.
Well, ok, the cat, you can totally worry about the cat, that's us too.
Connie Neil - Jul 05, 2014 8:50:58 am PDT #11940 of 30002
brillig
Ah, the Halloween ep of Castle and him in the browncoat. It still makes me happy.
And I'm eating and drinking water, so long as it stays put.
beth b - Jul 05, 2014 8:56:17 am PDT #11941 of 30002
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
Things will go back and forth , but I am happy to hear you can breath a bit
omnis_audis - Jul 05, 2014 9:02:33 am PDT #11942 of 30002
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
I'm better. The waves are still very rough, but there is a shoreline appearing every now and then, and the rocks aren't quite as sharp.Let the ocean current carry you. When you are ready, you will find a safe harbor, and high tide will push you towards shore. In the meantime, let the waves wash over your bow. They are helping wash away some of the bigger pains. Nature will know when it's cleared as much as it can, then ease you towards shore. And we are all here for ya. And yes, Castle is a great distraction. Love that show.
Shir, great to see your pixels. I've been watching the news, and thinking of you, and trying not to be a 'mother hen' and worrying about you. I keep remembering what you said about neither side wants to damage Jerusalem, so that keeps you safe from bombings. But this round seems a bit more personal than bombings. So, you are in my thoughts.
In meme news, the grand festivities have begun. Wedding weekend is upon us. Last night was party #1 at my place. A chance for the 2 families to meet and mingle. And then watch tons of fireworks. It was a success. Tonight is bachelor party night. Tomorrow is rehearsal dinner (with like 50 people attending!?!?). Then Monday is the big day. Then Tuesday brunch. Then the rest of the week for this introvert to hide from the world and recharge.
meara - Jul 05, 2014 9:08:23 am PDT #11943 of 30002
Who's getting married, omnis? I must've skimmed.
omnis_audis - Jul 05, 2014 9:11:02 am PDT #11944 of 30002
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
I'm officiating the marriage of two of my best friends. I introduced them. We all used to work together at old job before I moved to Texas.
Burrell - Jul 05, 2014 10:06:22 am PDT #11945 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
How sweet, omnis. Have a lovely weekend!
Connie Neil - Jul 05, 2014 10:14:19 am PDT #11946 of 30002
brillig
Has anyone else read "Cheaper By the Dozen," when the father dies, and his wife, who was always a bit flighty and deferred to him on everything, is described as taking the blow, then shaking herself and becoming a strong, capable woman? I'm kind of intrigued by what kind of woman I'm going to become.
I'm not to cronehood yet. Matron still sort of applies. But the sound of widow in my head has power. It is an awful word, in all senses. A woman who has gone through immense pain and is still here.