Hating people and so confused right now. I just got a call from the nurse saying that my doctor thinks I should continue the progesterone medication that I am on to maintain pregnancy, because there is still (a very weak) heartbeat. The NP told me earlier today that I would probably be stopping it because there isn't hope for this pregnancy (paraphrasing), and the progesterone is likely the only reason I haven't miscarried yet. So, I ask the nurse if this means that the doctor thinks I could still have a viable pregnancy, which of course she won't answer. So she says the the doctor said if I want to stop the progesterone, I can, but he thinks I should continue to take it. I'm now waiting for my doctor to call me back to explain this to me himself.

that just sucks, sj.

Good grief, sj! Not being able to maintain progesterone was my issue. Once they figured that out I was okay. I hope he calls back quickly to clarify his thinking. Love and strength sent your way.

Ack, sj!!! How frustrating! I hope you get an answer soon.

Much ma to you.

Dude. One solid "thwap" to the doc if he really did say "well, if you want to..." and like TWELVE to the NP for the "no hope" comment if that isn't actually the case.

I hope you get actual clear communication from someone soon.

Oh, sj, how maddening.

Wow, sj. I think I'd be talking to a patient advocate about the lack of communication between your health care providers. Seriously, when it's that delicate a situation, everyone should be on the same page. Tons of ~ma to you and TCG.

I'm so sorry for your pain, sj.

ION, Hubby gets admitted for a month next Tuesday, barring sudden onset weirdness. I don't know if it's hisH attitude or his mutant Vikingness, but he's coping with this so much better than anyone has expected. He tells people what cancer he has and his chances, and they're all horrified. He was actually offered a job as a patient counselor at the Huntsman, but aside from the commute, he's not sure what that would do to his disability status. But he can always volunteer.

So now we're deciding what he's going to take with him and what I'll be bringing up on a regular basis. They encourage him to have his own clothes as a reason to get out of bed, and I'll be doing clean underwear runs. I told him it was like weekends from college in reverse. They have kitchens and laundries up there for families. And they will bring him nearly anything he wants to eat in the middle of the night.

I'm reminding myself that I am a fully competent grownup who can live alone for a month and that the car will not suddenly develop bizarre symptoms as soon as my husband is out of reach.

And we need to wash candidates from the puppy pile (the pack of stuffed wolves that live in bed) so he can take a few up with him. I hope the cat doesn't hate me in two weeks.

sj - we had a scare when I was pregnant with CJ. They couldn't find a heartbeat and wanted to schedule a D&C. KCD pushed back and they decided to let us wait a week and have me seen in the high risk department. And...well, I have CJ. I know your situation is different, but sometimes waiting and checking again is a good option. I hope your doctor gets back to you soon.

I'm sorry sj, how frustrating. FWIW it sounds like the doctor and the NP are not necessarily in agreement as to the likeliest outcome, and therefore are giving differing advice, rather than anyone being cavalier about your pregnancy. But I'm sorry that it is impacting you in such a personal way.