sj - we had a scare when I was pregnant with CJ. They couldn't find a heartbeat and wanted to schedule a D&C. KCD pushed back and they decided to let us wait a week and have me seen in the high risk department. And...well, I have CJ. I know your situation is different, but sometimes waiting and checking again is a good option. I hope your doctor gets back to you soon.

I'm sorry sj, how frustrating. FWIW it sounds like the doctor and the NP are not necessarily in agreement as to the likeliest outcome, and therefore are giving differing advice, rather than anyone being cavalier about your pregnancy. But I'm sorry that it is impacting you in such a personal way.

My doctor called me back just as I was getting my food at a very loud restaurant (of course). He wants me to stay on the progesterone until next weeks ultrasound because in very very rare cases the baby will just suddenly start growing. He does not expect this to happen in my case, and what he actually expects is that when I go for my ultrasound next Thursday, there will be no heartbeat at all. He also made a point of telling me that I will be seeing a different NP after next week's appointment, which is good because I really don't like the bedside manner of the one I have been seeing.

Oh, sj, I'm so sorry for this struggle and uncertainty.

While I am certain you will be prepared for whatever outcome next week, I would add to Suzi's encouragement.

It may be that this baby is not able to stay, but my mother was told that I had no heartbeat at 6 months, but that she would have to carry me to term...very different times, of course.

Well, I made it, for what that is worth.

It does sound like he was as appalled at the bad communication as you and the rest of us were. I'm glad he got back to you to clarify his expectations. I wish there was something we could offer that would help more than virtual hugs and love.

I wish there was something we could offer that would help more than virtual hugs and love.

The virtual hugs and love are helping more than you can ever know. I am grateful beyond words to have a safe place to hide and vent, especially a place I can access virtually from anywhere.

love to you both sj.

good grief sj. I am so sorry for this whole situation and you and your hubby are in my thoughts.

Connie, that sounds like they make lots of effort at comfy, home-y atmosphere. That can only help. May the wolves travel with your hubby to victory.

sj, I wish hope and joy for you. And may the hope and joy of this moment not break your heart in another moment. But if your heart does break by them, may new hope and joy bring healing in their wake.

sj, I am so sorry, honey. Also, if you want to get away, I have a guest room and an housekeeper, so my place will actually be clean ;) Not a lot to do in Hartford, but sometimes a change of scenery is nice.