Yes, there are horrific homo sapiens out there who abandon people when life gets tough, but I profoundly resented the thought that I would have considered such a thing. That she thinks I contemplated that choice utterly boggles me. She meant it in all approval, but damn.
TG gets this a lot. We were only together about a year when I first started to get really ill, but we were also deeply in love - and, y'know, I was a person beyond my illness. She thinks it's atrocious when people treat her like a saint for staying with the useless cripple. (So do I.) She does a lot for me, but she always says that I do just as much for her.
The thing is, you don't know in advance how you will react. I didn't think I had a nurturing bone in the body. Was convinced of that. It was a complete surprise. Honestly, the absolute worst part of the whole 24x7 caretaker thing is the sudden and total not being needed thing. Sucks beyond telling.
Teppy clearly needs that dress.
Teppy clearly needs that dress.
I did buy a Groupon for a pin-up photo shoot -- that dress might be perfect for it.
I'm not sure about staying through No Matter What, because, mostly, I'm that single. The partner I'm thinking of is kind of a hologram(Although not the creepy MJ one) but if I found somebody who could deal with my family, how important politics are too me, my disability crap and all the Wire Quotes, I would do my damnedest to stick with their stuff, too.(Of course, people don't think a cripple that leaves would ever have a place to go. Sort of like inmates.)
Everyone said my stepdad was so AMAZING for "taking on" my mom and us.(And sometimes he did amazing things.) But my mother is an amazing person and men are lucky to get her as a partner, Now the woman he is with has four crazy kids--one has MD. Maybe that is like a kink of his, being Mr. AMAZING. Like American Will from About A Boy, but geeky.
ASDs are not a mental illness, damn it.
It's different neurology.
(I have an ASD diagnosis. I also have mood disorder characterized by severe anxiety and occasional bouts of serious depression. One is how my brain works, the other is how it doesn't. Basically.)
ASDs are not a mental illness, damn it.
Oh, right, I meant to respond to that earlier.
And...what she said.
Laura, is there any way to re-frame the discussion as addressing the problem as something other than depression? Hormonal imbalance? Possible early dementia? A pain disorder? There is clearly something awry and any number of things COULD be causing it.
Maybe if you can take the taboo notion of mental illness off the table she can deal with the functional things that are going wrong.
I think I've gotten Hubby to stop saying "I don't deserve you." I said to him once, "So that means I should leave you and find someone I do deserve?" Men of the world, this is not a compliment!
Pete has started saying something similar, and it drives me bugnuts. I know it comes from his own self-worth issues and depression, but that doesn't make it less aggravating to hear.
Sorry to jump into the middle of this with something totally unrelated, but I might be going to Hong Kong in a few weeks for some meetings about a potential new project that might also open up a few more opportunities for my company. For all sorts of reasons I can't even mention it elsewhere, and it's crazy making waiting to hear if it is happening and trying to account for what it might mean for my business.
