Anne, I'll take a look at that one if the ones I ordered don't work out. My other issue is that I've got really narrow shoulders, so I need the straps set much closer to the center of the bra than a lot of designs make them. I think that the one I had a few years ago that I liked reasonably well was a Glamorise one.

I totally have white-coat BP spikes. I guess that's all it is, though, although I have had it retaken at the end of an appt a few times.

Huh. So there's a live action room-escape game in Seattle and San Francisco apparently. My first thought at hearing about it (12 people locked in a room, solve puzzles to escape!) was that Buffistas would kick ass. Then my second thought was "er, would claustrophobia be an issue?"

If they are serious about the blood pressure reading, as in they believe there is an issue, they take it sitting, standing, reclining, etc.

The only time I've had doctors retake my BP (even when it was on the high side) was at Urgent Care when I went for a migraine and my BP was 140-something over 100-something. They waited 5-10 minutes while I lay down in a dark room and then retook it (and it was still high).

(That Urgent Care is shockingly good. I had always heard disparaging things about urgent care in general, that they don't give great care because they're just a revolving door for people who don't have insurance/are drug-seeking/whatever. But every time I've had to go to this Urgent Care, they've taken great care of me. Five stars, would bleed on their floor again.)

And it drives me fucking insane when nurses, who have JUST weighed me and therefore know I'm fat -- and can also see with their nurse eyes that I am a big fat panda -- pull out the regular-size BP cuff. Use a regular size cuff on a big fat panda like me and my BP will be high. Use a large-size cuff, and the reading is more accurate. (When it started running high with a large cuff is when I started to worry.)

I have the opposite problem -- nurses look at my weight and reach for the large cuff, even though that one covers my entire arm from shoulder to elbow, and thus gives totally screwed-up readings. (It also wraps around far too much, because they don't seem to realize that, while my BMI puts me as obese, my weight is not in my arms, and even if I were completely "normally" proportioned, I'm still 4'10".)

Even if the doctor doesn't know why your np is high, it is best. To get it down. One of the things they think is that people that have white coat syndrome, have tendencies toward getting high blood pressure.

Yeah, I'm on beta blockers now (mainly for migraines, but also for the BP) which can't hurt.

Doctors have re-taken my blood pressure a few times in one appointment - they find it varies a lot, but they're not too interested in why this might be.

Hi, Seska! It's great to see you!

Hey, Jilli, is this the kind of thing you were looking for a while back? May be too big for you.

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Serious question. How do I convince someone that mental illness is real? A friend had a parent with a big problem. The parent has been on medications for decades but it has become much worse. Curled in the dark room crying, can't stay home, has to stay with her daughter the last few months, personal hygiene issues, and much more. My friend started out caring and nurturing, but at this point she has adapted a different attitude. She now has taken the attitude that mom is just felling sorry for herself, or faking it, and just needs to buck up.

I have tried to explain that NO ONE would chose to be that miserable. That it is no different than cancer or heart disease and you can't just buck up. She insists that she certainly does all the time and mom should too. It could be that she is simply exhausted after dealing with this for so long and mom certainly does need more help than she can provide. The doctor mom sees once a month just checks her long med list once a month. Daughter has told him repeatedly how bad it is, but he just says things like "we will have to watch that".

I just don't know what I can do to help, but everyone is miserable here.

That sounds like a bad situation, Laura. If someone doesn't want to believe in mental illness, it can be hard to change their minds. But one thing I might suggest would be getting her mom to a different doctor. The current one doesn't seem to be addressing the problem. And if there's a long list of meds, there could be some interaction issues that the current doctor isn't aware of. A new doctor might be more responsive and understand the med issues better, and s/he might also be able to give some MD weight on the fact that mental illness really is a thing.