Are you active there?

No, I am not. Which explains my ignorance. Tumblr, like FB, is blocked at my workplace, and I don't have time at home to fully explore a new ecosystem. So I have bookmarked a few Tumblrs (Coach Taylor Encourages Your Academics, Fannish Flamingo, Women Warriors), and I follow links once in a while, but that's it.

And the recruiter says this morning that the Houston people are not going to make an offer. Despite saying they would make an offer Monday.

Fuck.

Dana, I'm so sorry.

sarameg, insent to your personal addy.

And the recruiter says this morning that the Houston people are not going to make an offer

Fuckers!

Really, that's just grossly unprofessional. If you don't have authority to make an offer, don't say you will. If the decision isn't final, don't say you're going to make an offer. How hard is that to understand?

I am a bad daughter: I overruled my dad, and told the med staff to give my mother Haldol this morning. I would like for my dad to have one morning not full of rage and abuse.

Consuela, depends on your definition of what BAD is.

I suspect your mother has reached the point where it's not "drugging her to keep her compliant" but "drugging her so that she's not emotionally wrought." She needs a break from it as much as anyone around her.

Crap, Dana. I don't understand why they'd say they would and then not.

That doesn't sound like bad daughtering to me, 'Suela.

They just said he "wasn't a fit" because they're very picky about their "culture."

So basically, we have no idea why, and we'll never know.

I am a bad daughter: I overruled my dad, and told the med staff to give my mother Haldol this morning. I would like for my dad to have one morning not full of rage and abuse.

Your dad needs lots more overruling. He is a huge part of the problem, it seems like.

When a prospective employer acts so unprofessional, it's probably a sign that you should be glad that the offer was withdrawn in the longer run. (This is, of course, best enjoyed when your husband has landed a splendid SECURE job in a nice location.)

What is the last thing that made you smile unexpectedly?

Here, have two things! This morning the conference staff who've seen me every day stopped me and enthusiastically asked me about my wardrobe, and all said that seeing me has been the high point of their mornings all week.

Yesterday during one of the breaks, I chatted with another attendee (I complemented her "straight, but not narrow" pin), and we had a wonderful talk about her trans daughter, how she and her daughter do trans education outreach, and all about supporting kids who are outside of the norm. She said, "Having a trans child is a blessing. I wish more parents understood that." She made me very happy.