There's still the job in ABQ, but of course now I am discontented with that prospect. I almost wish they wouldn't make him the offer, so we could still pursue stuff in Houston. Which is a stupid way to look at it.

'Suela, you are NOT a bad daughter. You are doing what is best for your mom, your dad, and (VERY IMPORTANT) your sanity.

Dana, that's very unprofessional. Theo is right, it's a sign that working there would be ... not great.

Well, now I'm torn between rage at Dana's DH's chain-yanking former future employers (and Sparky's and Suela's current actual employers, just as chain-yanking and pain-causing) and turning into a puddle of sentiment at the lovely woman Jilli just met.

Fury, joy, fury, joy.

When a prospective employer acts so unprofessional, it's probably a sign that you should be glad that the offer was withdrawn in the longer run

Theo is absolutely right here and I would have said the same thing if she hadn't beaten me to it. Should I also say that I find "doesn't fit into culture" excuse to be wildly problematic. There are "good" reasons to use that phrase I suppose, but 80% of the time I find that excuse to be bs.

I'm sorry Dana.

and turning into a puddle of sentiment at the lovely woman Jilli just met.

She was so lovely. I talked about my friend who transitioned last year and is now volunteering at a community space for queer and trans teens; and the lady gave me a photo card with pictures of her daughter and a link to the website that talks about their story. I can't wait to give it to Maura.

So the Menorahmobile was just parked in front of our building. I managed to get a picture as it left.

My boss told me about it--it's used by a sect of proselytizing Jews (I forget what they're called).

Since I started working in Highland Park, I've been approached twice by them. They leave me alone after asking me if I'm Jewish and me telling them no.

Consuela, you are the opposite of a bad daughter. There are just no unambiguously "right" things to be doing in your family's situation now. I think giving your day a morning of potential quiet is the best option now.

And, ugh, Dana! What stupidity!

This was not an unexpected smile because, puppies are kind of known for being cute, but this is the picture CB's former foster mom sent last night:

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I feel kind of bad that we don't have the space for multiple dogs. Clearly she'd like a puppy of her own!

Lubavitchers, probably?

Being right when your father is wrong (and pressing it) is not bad.

I tried to refresh my brain by looking at pictures of the two Steve McQueens, and apparently that's not a trick that lasts. Maybe it's inherently flawed by me not wanting to stop.

Dana, they shouldnt mention an offer unless it is 100%.

I'm at the oncologist getting an iron infusion. Doc called this morning to say my Ferratin level is 7, normal is something like 15-200. So here I sit for the next 3 hours. Wheeeee. So bored already.