Consuela, I'm all for keeping the grey, but you know the field you'll be interviewing in best, so if you think a dye job will make you look more competitive. It's not like it will take a long time to grow out, anyway.

I dreamed I got offered a job last night, and I woke up all disappointed that it really didn't happen. Ah well. Something will come along, right? RIGHT?

I think the grey is fabulous both for Consuela and Theodosia! But understand the need to do what makes you most comfortable. My sister finally let hers grow out and it is awesome. She had much darker hair than me so it went white while I have maybe 12 grey hairs.

So Palm Beach is an odd place at times. The odd part about this one isn't to me that the rich dude can't legally adopt his 40 something year old girlfriend to take from the trust for this biological kids, the surprise was he was granted the adoption the year before, it was just reversed. Seriously dude, can you be any more of a scumbag? [link] Well, there is the hit and run murder part too. Somehow I see him selling his story for profit at some point.

eta: And I would take that dream as a psychic prediction of a near future event!

Something will come along, Theo!

Also, nice people in Florida. This office won a million bucks to share among the 12 in the office pool, and decided to share with the 1 that didn't contribute. [link] Nicer than some offices!

I hope you find an amazing job and the f-sticks call you in ten months desperate for help and you are too busy to even care that they are crying sad woeful tears.

I hope you charge them triple time with a four hour minimum as a consultant.

Because of the defensive stance so many of them take I have found myself jumping through hoops to present it as likely something other than their precious work product, but could they just take a look at this error and help me out. And these people work for me!!! Just delicate flowers I guess.

Aw Laura, you are good peeps. I am continually surprised at how often the best way to manage adults is to treat them like toddlers. Or maybe it's just that most people flourish when you tred gently on their egos.

I've been lucky, the grey is coming in as blonde streaks, which looks kind of nifty in the dulled auburm.

Or maybe it's just that most people flourish when you tred gently on their egos.

My employees are software developers, and my customers are doctors. I am getting way too much experience dealing with ego.

A couple of my developers are super defensive

Yeah--my charge to the finish line meant I handled a couple fixes without her, and everything that broke afterwards was because of my fix, she said. Now, she'd still need to fix it, but I guess it made her feel better to point fingers and then wander away for a bit. But in discussing it with a more experienced developer, he likened it to blaming car problems on something you'd done to the microwave, just because you'd had the microwave in the car at some point. If you can't tell that a specific screen throwing a Java "value not found error" is *not* because IIS isn't installed on the server (it was only installed on it fora few hours last week, and everything has worked successfully since it was removed) and *is* because you mislaid a file the page needs to load...you look like an idiot.

Yeah, I did ask her if it was about that file, and she got pissy and said I'd uninstalled IIS, so maybe I'd broken it. Thanks, hon, that really changes everything, and by everything I mean nothing, since IT'S STILL YOUR JOB TO FIX IT and YOU'LL CLEARLY DISCOVER THESE THINGS AREN'T RELATED. She's really paranoid about looking wrong but apparently not about looking stupid. The Ca developers all laugh at her.

And I don't consider "Hey, can you look at this error message the business is getting? They're dead in the water" to be treading on egos in any way. What she needs to do is tread on someone else's in order to make herself seem less stupid, and she's yet to "win" that little game. I like to help by throwing out any changes I've made that align with problems, but apparently my ability to define "aligh" and hers, well, don't.

So I got semi-permanent color yesterday: a brown a shade or two lighter than my old color. It's still pretty jarring, though, by comparison with the grey. My stylist says the color will fade, letting the grey show through in flecks rather than growing out from the roots. In any event, I'm really only doing it while I'm on the market--as soon as I get another job, I'll stop coloring it again.

She's really paranoid about looking wrong but apparently not about looking stupid. The Ca developers all laugh at her.

I think that's the Dunning-Krueger effect in action, because she doesn't realize she's making herself look stupid.