Author just wrote me from his gmail account: sexyboyb@...

When I worked at a high school program at my university, one of the young men wrote to me from "leothelionman6969@...."

And then, of course when he came in he was a cute little nerdy boy-- but hardly leo the lionman 6969.

And don't you think your attitude contributed?

Yet another variation of victim-blaming. Hate it.

I think sexyboyb is worse than leothelionman, but not sure if the 6969 part makes it worse...

So, I don't normally read the comments, but loved this from a commenter on Jezebel:

are we seriously allowing men who think women have magical uteri to make life-altering laws on our reproductive systems?! That's like allowing children to make laws about dentistry based on their understanding of how the tooth fairy collects teeth for a living

So, I don't normally read the comments, but loved this from a commenter on Jezebel:

I wish I could even figure out how to read the comments on Jezebel now. I saw 3. Literally, 3 comments.

But the truth is, ZK, that I *don't* have the same faith that I had as a younger person, that if I could make people *understand*,everything would be different, and there's no such thing as a truly stupid person, and "what's inside," is truly what counts. Maybe that is getting smarter, but it has kind of wrecked my attitude. So as much as I hate it, there is a "stopped-clock" kind of truth in it. But it can happen whether you are expecting it or not.

Tep, I know. Jez sucks now.(of course, I'm paranoid about internet security so the redesign hates my Firefox. That's truly what sucks.

And, most importantly, they know they are Not That Guy, so, there are what?

From the gay male perspective (I won't claim to speak for others), it doesn't take many That Guys to ruin things. Although I tend to find mansplaining (straightsplaining?) more in the media than in person. But even in the media, it only takes one willfully clueless person to ruin my day.

I wish I could even figure out how to read the comments on Jezebel now. I saw 3. Literally, 3 comments.

I have actually figured it out, but it is so annoying to me that I can hardly do it.

It takes all the frustrations I have with threaded message boards and compounds them with speed of posting. (I am not talking about threaded like here, I am talking about when each poster starts a thread every time they have a comment.)

I know those guys are still out there...but you don't have to be one to have bias or discriminate. Sometimes a straight-up sexist or ableist almost seems...well, not easier, obviously. They suck. But you don't have to spend as much time trying to get your allies on your side as when they're trying to be "helpful" or "realistic"

Consuela - that article is a thing of beauty.

my fried food is good, but like everything else I have eaten in the last four days, is upsetting my stomach.