Okay, crisis averted. They weren't answering the phone because they were at the ER. Mom felt a pain in her chest and they spent all day at the hospital. Of course there's nothing wrong, but Dad didn't want to tell us anything until he knew what the doctors said.
Classic.
At least I didn't have to spend all that time stuck in the tunnel...
Moving them to assisted living or getting full-time care in, either way, requires a bruising battle with my mother, who may have lost most of her cognitive function, but is still capable of being incredibly nasty and stubborn.
I'm sorry to hear that, but I still think the peace of mind you'd derive would be worth all the fight.
Whoa, go your dad, Suela!
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Here’s What Happened When an Elderly Woman Took It Upon Herself to Restore a Painting in a Nearby Church
The images alone had me laughing my ass off the couch.
Consuela, you may have to get large, professional people to install her in care against her will. They will tend to her needs and make sure she doesn't hurt herself, which is in itself a huge relief, let alone the attrition the tension is taking on the rest of you. If her judgment is impaired, it becomes another competent adult's responsibility to see she's safely cared for.
I know I sound harsh, but I will always regret the additional years of having my mom in a safe facility, surrounded by trained professionals, and not having our personal at-home care for her touch and harm much daily pleasure and energy from family members and our interactions with each other. When she could not pitch tantrums and manipulate her caregivers, she settled in and was much happier herself.
ETA: I'm glad it was nothing serious--and that you avoided tunnel time.
Here’s What Happened When an Elderly Woman Took It Upon Herself to Restore a Painting in a Nearby Church
I must have missed the episode of
Deep Space Nine
where Odo died for our sins.
Consuela, I have to add my voice to those saying do not try to take care of her yourself. My sister tried to care for our mom in her home and it was awful for her and not good for my mom.
I must have missed the episode of Deep Space Nine where Odo died for our sins.
bt, hee hee hee
What all the other people said. My parents are really clear that they don't want or expect us to take on the primary caregiving. They had tastes of it, and don't want any of us in that situation. OTOH, I think if and when the time comes, they may have to wrestle my SIL to the floor to convince her not to take them on (we ALL look at her as if she's crazy. ) Compromise is if they need to move into a care facility, it's probably going to be whereever she and Josh are. But it gives me comfort that I have senior independent living apartments and a [link] Greenhouse assisted living facility a 5 minute walk from me.
ION, I HAVE TICKETS TO AUSTRALIA!!! It's nuts. We're flying DFW->Brisbane-> Cairns, then Cairns->Brisbane->Sydney->DFW. Ooof.
That is SO EXCITING sarameg!