Consuela, I have to add my voice to those saying do not try to take care of her yourself. My sister tried to care for our mom in her home and it was awful for her and not good for my mom.
Willow, check you out! Witch-Fu!
Buffy ,'Lessons'
Natter 70: Hookers and Blow
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Zenkitty - Aug 21, 2012 4:27:35 pm PDT #18972 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
le nubian - Aug 21, 2012 4:28:47 pm PDT #18973 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
I must have missed the episode of Deep Space Nine where Odo died for our sins.
bt, hee hee hee
sarameg - Aug 21, 2012 4:49:39 pm PDT #18974 of 30001
What all the other people said. My parents are really clear that they don't want or expect us to take on the primary caregiving. They had tastes of it, and don't want any of us in that situation. OTOH, I think if and when the time comes, they may have to wrestle my SIL to the floor to convince her not to take them on (we ALL look at her as if she's crazy. ) Compromise is if they need to move into a care facility, it's probably going to be whereever she and Josh are. But it gives me comfort that I have senior independent living apartments and a [link] Greenhouse assisted living facility a 5 minute walk from me.
ION, I HAVE TICKETS TO AUSTRALIA!!! It's nuts. We're flying DFW->Brisbane-> Cairns, then Cairns->Brisbane->Sydney->DFW. Ooof.
-t - Aug 21, 2012 4:55:26 pm PDT #18975 of 30001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
That is SO EXCITING sarameg!
Burrell - Aug 21, 2012 4:58:45 pm PDT #18976 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Whoa, Australia! That's so cool sarameg!
billytea - Aug 21, 2012 5:01:01 pm PDT #18977 of 30001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
Whoa, Australia! That's so cool sarameg!
Why, yes. Yes it is.
Consuela - Aug 21, 2012 5:02:04 pm PDT #18978 of 30001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Australia! SO COOL. Someday I'm going there, I swear.
sarameg - Aug 21, 2012 5:07:12 pm PDT #18979 of 30001
I'll be gone about 2 weeks, but with the dateline and freaking 23ish hours of flying each way, it ends up to be about 11 days in Australia. And I'm hoping to tack on the weekend before in DFW visiting certain FRIENDS... (check your email, msbelle!)
23 hours flying with my parents, SIL and nephews. Thank god it is Qantas. They don't make you pay for booze on Qantas, do they???
billytea - Aug 21, 2012 5:22:44 pm PDT #18980 of 30001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
23 hours flying with my parents, SIL and nephews. Thank god it is Qantas. They don't make you pay for booze on Qantas, do they???
IT WOULD BE UNAUSTRALIAN.
Jesse - Aug 21, 2012 5:25:07 pm PDT #18981 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
It is super exciting, Sara!
Consuela, if you decide that your mom is better off in a home of some kind, the transition may be really hard, but I bet the long-term will be easier for all of you. She can try to kick a caregiver out of her house, but in assisted living or a nursing home or whatever, they are just always there regardless.