I vote full-time care that is not you.

Semi-relatedly, is it just my age or does there seem to be an uptick in multi-generational homes again? I was thinking the other night that split design houses with only a shared kitchen would be really good for situations of elderly parents needing full-time care, but the children wanting to be there also. And similarly, they would work well for families that due to unemployment or underemployment who have to move in with parents or siblings.

A duplex is really what I think my parents and I should get as they get older, but of course they are all "we need more space blah blah blah cakes". Ignoring the fact that I do not really want to live right beside them, but it would be most convenient in cases of emergency and old parentness.

Semi-relatedly, is it just my age or does there seem to be an uptick in multi-generational homes again?

Yes. Because of the economy.

Timelies all!

The asshole contingent in politics is being very vocal this week, huh? Gah...

Consuela, don't do it. You feel like you should, but you're not a professional. Your personal connection to them probably makes you worse qualified for it, not better. Don't.

I'm still so terrified about my parents. We've thought about a lot of things, but not slow deterioration. Not mental deterioration. I can say lots of things about other people's families but I look at my sister and all the things she did when my mother was sick last year and I just feel like shit.

The asshole contingent in politics is being very vocal this week, huh?

"Vocal assholes" makes me think of farting. Somehow this leads me to picturing Benny Hill chasing around Akin and Ryan in fast motion while "Yakety Sax" plays.

Sometimes my brain is a fun place to live....

Yeah, Consuela--I think that it would make you completely insane, and not be good for your OWN health to live with them.

Also, it might make you hate your siblings forever for not having to do that.

Semi-relatedly, is it just my age or does there seem to be an uptick in multi-generational homes again?

There is a part of me that really wants to get a duplex and move my dad in to one half. Or take over an apartment building and get the ElderGoth Hive set up.

Chocolate does NOT touch vegetables, good god.

Chocolate Zucchini Cake is the NOM! so moist. (Not necessarily what Jesse posted there, but I am bookmarking it as the zucchini are coming fast and furious.)

I'll add to the chorus of "Don't move in," Consuela. I watched my mother take care of my dad and work for years. It almost killed her and she had no life. I think that's one reason why she has no friends now. It's also difficult to support an adult who is falling without getting hurt yourself.

There is a part of me that really wants to get a duplex and move my dad in to one half.

This was originally the plan with my mom, but we couldn't find a duplex that fit our needs. Then we found the big house in Alameda and bought that together. Luckily for us the multi-generational thing worked fairly well. There were minor bumps but I had more issues living with KCD than my mom.