Timelies all!
The asshole contingent in politics is being very vocal this week, huh? Gah...
Congratulations to the class of 1999. You all proved more or less adequate.
Snyder ,'Chosen'
Natter 70: Hookers and Blow
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Sheryl - Aug 21, 2012 12:43:00 pm PDT #18948 of 30001
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
§ ita § - Aug 21, 2012 12:45:17 pm PDT #18949 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Consuela, don't do it. You feel like you should, but you're not a professional. Your personal connection to them probably makes you worse qualified for it, not better. Don't.
I'm still so terrified about my parents. We've thought about a lot of things, but not slow deterioration. Not mental deterioration. I can say lots of things about other people's families but I look at my sister and all the things she did when my mother was sick last year and I just feel like shit.
tommyrot - Aug 21, 2012 12:47:14 pm PDT #18950 of 30001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
The asshole contingent in politics is being very vocal this week, huh?
"Vocal assholes" makes me think of farting. Somehow this leads me to picturing Benny Hill chasing around Akin and Ryan in fast motion while "Yakety Sax" plays.
Sometimes my brain is a fun place to live....
meara - Aug 21, 2012 12:54:36 pm PDT #18951 of 30001
Yeah, Consuela--I think that it would make you completely insane, and not be good for your OWN health to live with them.
Also, it might make you hate your siblings forever for not having to do that.
Atropa - Aug 21, 2012 12:54:37 pm PDT #18952 of 30001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Semi-relatedly, is it just my age or does there seem to be an uptick in multi-generational homes again?
There is a part of me that really wants to get a duplex and move my dad in to one half. Or take over an apartment building and get the ElderGoth Hive set up.
Sue - Aug 21, 2012 12:57:18 pm PDT #18953 of 30001
hip deep in pie
Chocolate does NOT touch vegetables, good god.
Chocolate Zucchini Cake is the NOM! so moist. (Not necessarily what Jesse posted there, but I am bookmarking it as the zucchini are coming fast and furious.)
Ginger - Aug 21, 2012 1:15:08 pm PDT #18954 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
I'll add to the chorus of "Don't move in," Consuela. I watched my mother take care of my dad and work for years. It almost killed her and she had no life. I think that's one reason why she has no friends now. It's also difficult to support an adult who is falling without getting hurt yourself.
SuziQ - Aug 21, 2012 1:15:58 pm PDT #18955 of 30001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
There is a part of me that really wants to get a duplex and move my dad in to one half.
This was originally the plan with my mom, but we couldn't find a duplex that fit our needs. Then we found the big house in Alameda and bought that together. Luckily for us the multi-generational thing worked fairly well. There were minor bumps but I had more issues living with KCD than my mom.
Burrell - Aug 21, 2012 1:21:22 pm PDT #18956 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Either I'll have to move in with them, or they have to get full-time caregiving.
Having BTDT I can't recommend highly enough finding full-time care for them. In their situation an assisted living/nursing care combo would be ideal as it would provide your mother with the nursing care she needs and allow your father to remain near her but still have a bit of autonomy. But I know that's way easier said than done, both in terms of affordability and convincing your parents to do it.
Consuela - Aug 21, 2012 2:03:31 pm PDT #18957 of 30001
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
In their situation an assisted living/nursing care combo would be ideal as it would provide your mother with the nursing care she needs and allow your father to remain near her but still have a bit of autonomy.
Dad went to tour an assisted living facility: Mom refused to get out of the car, and apparently spent the whole ride home yelling at him.
Moving them to assisted living or getting full-time care in, either way, requires a bruising battle with my mother, who may have lost most of her cognitive function, but is still capable of being incredibly nasty and stubborn.