She wasn't making fun! She was reaffirming bonds.

Ha, I love the "I hate you!" cake, and I love her reasoning behind it too. Not every kid would take it the right way, but clearly her daughter did.

Rose got her first shots today, poor noodle. Man, those were hard cries to listen to. She's now been asleep for two and a half hours, though, so at least we've been able to relax a little afterwards.

I am trying to wrap my head around parenthood that gives you food after you lash out at them, and I think it's basically not a Jamaica thing.

There is nothing about that interaction that I can comprehend. Zero.

I'm with ita, if I bought that cake I'd be making fun of my kid, but that woman claims she's affirming bonds.

I guess I wouldn't think a five year old would need affirmation that the relationship isn't ruined

The sad thing is, some people are broken. I do know at least one family where the mom never forgave her 5 yo for saying "I hate you" to her.

Hmm, maybe the cake was to reassure the mom, not the daughter...

if I bought that cake I'd be making fun of my kid, but that woman claims she's affirming bonds.

I find it hard to believe she's not making at least a little bit of fun. I mean, it's a cake that says "I hate you" on it! That's hilarious!

I got it once I read her article -- I think her emphasis was to create a moment they could laugh about, and something to prove that no matter what they said to each in the heat of the moment, it wouldn't change the foundation of their relationship.

Sort of like telling a younger kid, "I don't like the way you behaved just now, but I'll always love you."

it's a cake that says "I hate you" on it! That's hilarious!

If you can think it's hilarious and I think it's oscillating between inexplicable and kind of embarrassing, I'm going to assume she could to totally serious.

"I don't like the way you behaved just now, but I'll always love you."

I explicitly asked my parents not to do this. Like, only love me if I act right. If I stop acting right--stop loving me.

It was...a conversation.

Amy, I read it the same way. I also liked the idea of commemorating the moment as a rite of passage. Most teenagers at least think they hate their parents at some point, even if they don't say it out loud, and I thought the cake was meant to say, "Hey, this is a normal part of growing up, and it doesn't actually mean we love each other any less."

If I stop acting right--stop loving me.

For definitions of what, drowning kittens? My kid has a pouty day or runs in the house and breaks something, I don't love them less even if I'm mad for a few minutes.

If we all love you unconditionally en masse, will your head explode?

ETA: Exactly, Kate. I mean, still not something I would probably do, but I had my first "I hate you" from Jake when he was five, so.