Birthday Happies Plei!!

Happy Birthday Plei!

I just called to try and get an earlier appointment with the dermatologist, but going to another office, and the next available appointment at any office with any dermatologist is July 31. Yesterday they had one for this afternoon and I did not take it because I did not have a way to get there, and now I am kicking myself.

Tep, I just emailed you a stretch possible idea. And it's maybe from an email addy you won't recognize, so heads up.

Thanks, Cass! I didn't see it when you e-mailed it, because I did manage to go back to sleep. But I am definitely going to try that stretch.

Happy Birthday, Plei!

Happy Birthday, Plei! Remember, cake consumed on one's birthday has no calories, gluten, or sugar.

Javachik, others got there before me, but yeah, ACOA is Adult Children of Alcoholics - or addicts, or emotionally screwed-up barely-functioning people; the psychological profiles of their children tend to be similar. My sister has the "take control and make things work" personality; I have the "hide until it goes away" personality. And that's a very bad off-the-cuff explanation. Someone else can probably do it better, if you're interested.

KOA would be more fun.

I'm UVA-adjacent, both my nieces and a couple of my friends went there. I'm trying to ignore it all and stay calm, because it won't directly affect me after all, but I can hear Jefferson thrashing around in his grave.

My sister has the "take control and make things work" personality; I have the "hide until it goes away" personality.

Ahahaha, that's exactly the dynamic of me and my sister.

My sister has the "take control and make things work" personality; I have the "hide until it goes away" personality.

Ahahaha, that's exactly the dynamic of me and my sister.

That would be me and my brother.

Great video, Sue!

I am a classic ACOA. You might have noticed my desire to help. I've played Hero Child most of my life.

I am a classic ACOA. You might have noticed my desire to help. I've played Hero Child most of my life.

But I also rock the trait of I-will-do-this-thing-to-please-you-and-I-will-do-it-in-exactly-the-way-you-indicated-in-the-past-that-it-should-be-done-but-I-am-already-fully-expecting-you-to-change-your-mind-AFTER-I-do-it-and-so-I-am-braced-for-the-smackdown-that-will-result-from-me-doing-it-the-only-way-I-knew-to-be-correct.

Oh, yes. I will NEVER shake that trait, especially since I work for a dry drunk who pulls that shit all the time.

Much like Kate and the breastfeeding, I should have known I wasn't the only one! Discovering ACOA literally changed my life; it made everything make *sense*. (That, and discovering my father probably isn't my father, which explained a helluva lot of things.)

I think I fit some of that, from growing up with my mom being so sick. That's ... sort of enlightening.