Here's what I mean about my diminishing brain function -- I had to page back a couple pages to see whether I'd said:

Happy Birthday, sumi!!

Which I had not. Used to be I'd remember. Ah, well. At least I remembered to check?

Aaaand, what Scrappy said.

And handling them doesn't mean ignoring them as hard as possible until things go snap.

Yeah, that's the part I still need to master. Or at least get better at.

Yeah, that's the part I still need to master. Or at least get better at.

My therapist calls me on it, and (more importantly) my friends and loved ones now call me on it. Because it turns out that my default state is "I'm FINE, you don't need to worry about me. How are YOU doing? What can I help with? No really, I'm fine, stop asking. Please stop asking" which is not as helpful as I thought.

I mentioned it to my sister and she immediately responded that there was probably an element of sexism in it--that he wouldn't call a man with my demeanor "bristly". She's probably right, and it doesn't help that this is a military environment...

I'm sure that's right. @@

I've been on a few ADs/anti-anxieties, and I guess they didn't work because I noticed no change in how I felt. Maybe they worked, maybe it was placebo effect, maybe it was cyclical moods. So I go off them. Then several months go by and the anxiety creeps up and I think "There has to be something that can be done about this!" I will say the generic Zoloft had me wandering around with my fists clenched all the time, so I figured that wasn't a good thing.

Hubby's on a few ADs as well, but as his doctor says "It's harder to deal with when you've got a very damned good reason to be depressed, and that reason isn't going away."

Because it turns out that my default state is "I'm FINE, you don't need to worry about me. How are YOU doing? What can I help with? No really, I'm fine, stop asking. Please stop asking" which is not as helpful as I thought.

Yes, and yes. I'm brilliant at deflecting attention from areas I do not wish to have a light shined, even though that's exactly where the light needs to go.

Consuela, I'm sure your sister is right, because I imagine "direct" and "no-nonsense" are the adjectives that would be attributed to a male counterpart, and in a positive way. And I think they are positive attributes, but they should be ascribed that way regardless of gender.

Generic Zoloft is the only thing that's worked for me, though I think changing jobs certainly helped. Abilify made me freakishly productive, and then put me to sleep (like Molly in the Runaways, kind of) and Wellbutrin gave me a 24 hr manic anxiety attack. Celexa/Lexapro didn't do shit. Vyvance didn't do shit.

My sister has been on so many ADs that my dad keeps a spreadsheet, because it got to the point that they would suggest something she'd been on and she didn't remember that she'd been on it.

In fact, I'm just going to pull out the "What Scrappy Said!" sign and wave it, because Scrappy is wise.

We so need a quick-edit for this.

Consuela, I'm sure your sister is right, because I imagine "direct" and "no-nonsense" are the adjectives that would be attributed to a male counterpart, and in a positive way. And I think they are positive attributes, but they should be ascribed that way regardless of gender.

Yeah, ::sigh:: I suspect the Nemesis has played the management here so successfully in part because she plays into the stereotype better than me. She positions herself as "helpful" rather than "authoritative", even though the reason they keep her on board is that she's got 30+ years of experience doing this. She is an authority.

Time for lunch:

And in case anyone needs a pick-me-up today, check out this adorable pygmy hedgehog: [link]