I'm going to be traveling with my mom, so foreign nookie is off the table. Unless she gets some--she told me about her first trip to Europe, how she was constantly getting hit on all throughout Austria and Germany.

ETA: And I just realized that she was my age (45) when she went on that trip.

In other words: Suck it up and be The Village.

Ha! Important advice, and I say this as one of the people with no kids.

ION, it looks like I am NOT interviewing The Damned today, as the drummer has not responded to email, texts, or voicemail. Woe. Woe is the Goth.

Despite only knowing Monica for 3 months, I feel fairly confident this is going to work out. Maybe it's because we're both INFP, but we get along very well. We're both very laid back. Plus we have similar geeky interests.

Kathy, IIRC, several Buffistas have skulked their way to foreign nookie while traveling with parents. IJS.

Jilli, it's early. Perhaps they are still sleeping?

Also, damn Damned.

The sleep of the Damned

Good news, tommy.

tommy, D and I moved in together after knowing each other for...7 months, and got married a little more than a year after meeting. I think one of the advantages of meeting someone when you're a little older is being able to decide when you are truly compatible or just thinking you are.

I mean, I did a fair amount of should-I-or-shouldn't-I here, but, really, it was over fairly quickly, and more from "EEP, I've never lived with a romantical type interest/Holy shit, marriage? WTFF?!" than "We'e not right for each other."

javachik, reading about those women, I also wonder how many of them are actually happy in their marriages (or still married) now. I mean, I certainly hope they are; I don't wish them unhappiness. But I'd guess it's not uncommon for someone who really, really wants to get married NOW -- in other words, someone for whom the goal is "marriage," not "finding the right person" -- to end up marrying someone with whom they're not super happy or compatible, long-term.

I am still Facebook friends with most of them, and they're still married. Two of them I'm close enough with to know they're actually very genuinely happy.

At the beginning of our relationship Will kind had reservations because how it might affect (effect?) me if we broke up. "I don't want to hurt you or cause you stress" that kind of thing.

I told him - if our relationship doesn't work out then it will be sad and I'll mourn the end of our relationship and cherish the time we had together but it won't break me.

Then when I told people at work I was moving I got a few comments like - but what if you move up there and then it doesn't work out? What will you do?

It would be sad and I'd figure out the next step, maybe stay in Vermont or move back to Florida or move somewhere else.

I also got asked when we were getting married. I don't know when that will happen, but it will and even though sometimes I want to happen Right noW! I'm not in too big of a rush.