I've also been on both sides of the friends issue. I've mostly been ok with respecting or setting the boundaries, but one friend of mine shocked me. I had been friends with this guy for years, as was my DH. We often went out and did things together, in groups as well as just the 2 of us. Never thought twice about it because we were friends. After I set him up on a dinner date with a friend they ended up never coming home and went away for the weekend. (his mother called me worried) They fell madly in love, got married, and have a couple of teens now. The big shocking discovery to me was that once he had a girlfriend/wife he never went out to lunch or anywhere else with me again. It was suddenly inappropriate! And the girl was my friend. Other friends advised me it was because he had always wanted more with me and once he was involved he moved on. Still annoyed about losing my friend.

We're moving soon and in a meeting to discuss the kinds of things people would like to have, she suggested having music piped through the office. Everyone else thought it was a horrible idea - possibly the worst - so it looks like that's not going to happen.

When I worked at Marathon Multimedia, We had an office phone system that played canned music from a CD player. For Christmas, I bought several Christmas CDs of various artists and was amused to note that people found a feature on their phones that let them play the music over their phone speakers.

smonster, I feel your money pain, and am proud of the way you are handling it.

{{Laura}} That's got to be an incredibly tough situation. You love B and and want the best from him, but he's almost 20 and needs to make his own choices and deal with his own failures. That's how we grow up. Still, not easy to sit by and watch.

P-C, the situation totally sucks. And, I know it's not a possibility now since she has made it clear she just wants to be friends, but why didn't you ask her out before? You've been crushing on her for 20 months? Why not ask her out 18 months ago?

Deena!!

Hil, can you cut and paste something?

Perhaps - Your grade is correct, do the math, oh that's right, you can't do the math, hence your sucky grade.

Thanks guys. I believe he will chose a different path when he is ready. He is crazy smart, good looking, personable. The world is his oyster. I keep telling myself it is better to get the rebellion stuff out of his system now than when he is 40. I've seen it go that way too. My biggest worry is that he likes to gamble because he is so good at everything. Pool, bowling, basketball. It puts money in his pocket, but it scares me a lot. Some people don't take losing well.

Hysterical side note - he has a tattoo on each wrist in pretty script - Live on one and Learn on the other. I am seriously proud of myself for not pointing out to him that he has done neither.

Laura, that is too funny about the tattoos. Maybe one day they will sink in.

I am seriously proud of myself for not pointing out to him that he has done neither.

Hee!

Stephanie! I've been thinking about you and the out-of-school thing. Hope that's all cleared up.

Chi! So nice to "see" you.

I did dishes this morning. We are Very Excited. It's been a couple of weeks since I had the energy to do that much. I'm celebrating by not doing anything else until it's time to go to Kara's cello concert tonight.

Poor little klutzy girl. Her teacher, to her dad, on conference night, "It figures that Kara would choose an instrument bigger than she is". She was given a 3/4 cello, but when she broke it for the second time, was given a 1/2 sized one. She hasn't broken it and we have our fingers crossed. The insurance is supposed to cover everything, but she broke it so badly the last time (it completely came apart), that they aren't sure they'll fix it again. It doesn't help that the store is an hour away by bus and not open on the only days Greg's off work.

Other friends advised me it was because he had always wanted more with me and once he was involved he moved on.

I had that happen to me, except he gave me a big "It's your fault I can't talk to you anymore" speech before he cut me off. I was fucking wounded, but I needed it spelt out for me that it wasn't my fault, and any guy who suddenly can't hang with you because he has a girlfriend (who's a mutual friend) was either looking at the friendship differently from you, or the girlfriend is exercising some leverage. Because I couldn't have told him more often that I didn't want to sleep with him (or anyone). I was adamant about that.

Laura, I cannot imagine the stress you're going through with your son. You're incredibly philosophical and reasonable about the whole thing, and I can't imagine being all that in that scenario. Go you, and here's to him pulling his head out of his nether regions sooner rather than later.

Perhaps - Your grade is correct, do the math, oh that's right, you can't do the math, hence your sucky grade.

So tempting.

Ouch, Kara. Somewhere my sister is twitching and doesn't know why.

I want to take Hil's class and fail it just so she can have the opportunity to send that email.