If someone had responded with "hey, I'm a Republican over here!

Historically, Republican Buffistas have said they feel cowed about speaking out. Sue me, I spoke out for people who may not even exist anymore because we may already have driven them away. BUT THAT SHOULDN'T MATTER. It shouldn't take the existence of a Republican Buffista to be respectful. We've hurt people in the past with statements very like that one, and it stings me to see it potentially happening again.

I don't apologise for that.

If someone had said that "Democratic intellectual" was an oxymoron, either the response would have been a) very different or b) pretty much nothing, because of the position of privilege Buffista Democrats post from.

I pointed out that Maria originally, and very politely, mentioned that some people might be hurt by the remark. If I recall correctly, erika was the one to take offense to that, and the discussion grew from there.

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But lately it seems like the board is going to police itself so that nothing that might offend anyone anywhere can be said without a scolding,

Which is the core of the discussion. And the crux of the problem. Because debating against having to speak on egg shells to avoid the potential of hurting potential someones puts you in the position of having others say "So you're arguing you have the right to hurt people just because you don't want to watch what you say." And then adding the disclaimer that you're engaging in hyperbole so you don't have to fight against literal interpretations of every thing you say.

I'm also leaning towards Typo's position--I love this place. The debate may not be worth the angst. I shall not argue further on this point.

Sue me, I spoke out for people who may not even exist anymore because we may already have driven them away. BUT THAT SHOULDN'T MATTER. It shouldn't take the existence of a Republican Buffista to be respectful. We've hurt people in the past with statements very like that one, and it stings me to see it potentially happening again.

I don't disagree, though I do recall fairly heated exchanges in Bureaucracy that hinged on what lurkers may or may not be thinking.

I don't really know when and whether this kind of issue makes a difference. If someone, say, posted a racial slur, I think anyone would be on solid footing to point out its offensiveness, whether or not they identify with it. Conversely, the military intelligence comment seems to have been intended, and by a number of people taken, as a comment on the organisation's structure and process, not on any individuals therein. Does it matter in such a case, a distinction between "I think there are people who might be offended" and "I personally am offended"?

Are you sure you don't disagree?

Are you sure you don't disagree?

Hee. Apologies for the unanticipated post splooge.

on what lurkers may or may not be thinking

I am not talking about lurkers, actually.

And, you know what? I don't *have* to be a Republican to be offended. But, face it, you don't know if I'm a Republican or not. Not that you care, but you don't know. I've never said.

So you want me to stand up and say it? You can't see the statement for what it is? You need me to be offended for it to be offensive? Well, there you go. I'm offended. Put it on the record.

There is also the fact that what is offensive to one is not to another. There is a lot of religion that drives me nuts and I find somewhat offensive, but what am I to do about it? For example, people saying I'm in their prayers when I'm sick. Intellectually I know that the comment is coming from a good place and they aren't meaning harm by it, but as someone who is pretty open about my atheism it can be tough to watch people so blatantly ignore my beliefs (or rather lack of belief). To me it's similar to a devout evangelical being told that someone is using the power of their new age crystals to help heal them. Is it worth me picking a fight about? No, not any longer. There was a point in my life where I couldn't let it go, but at this point in my life I do try to just let it be and focus on the intent.

Um, so yeah, a round about way of saying that I'm not sure how we go about not saying things that have the potential to offend someone in some way.