Vulnerability isn't weakness. Self-compassion isn't self-pity. Beating yourself up isn't discipline. Grief isn't failure. Doubt isn't betrayal.
Beautiful smonster.
Everything looks good from here... Yes. Yes, this is a fertile land, and we will thrive. We will rule over all this land, and we will call it... 'This Land.' I think we should call it 'your grave!' Ah, curse your sudden but inevitable betrayal! Ha ha HA! Mine is an evil laugh! Now die! Oh, no, God! Oh, dear God in heaven!
Wash ,'Serenity'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Sue - Apr 24, 2013 5:40:08 pm PDT #29335 of 30001
hip deep in pie
Atropa - Apr 24, 2013 5:44:06 pm PDT #29336 of 30001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Vulnerability isn't weakness. Self-compassion isn't self-pity. Beating yourself up isn't discipline. Grief isn't failure. Doubt isn't betrayal.
So, so true. And (speaking from my own perspective), so much easier to believe on the behalf of other people than applying it to myself.
WindSparrow - Apr 24, 2013 6:20:19 pm PDT #29337 of 30001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Yes, but on days like today it's tough. Fine, I go to the gym 5 days a week, but am I actually working to my full capacity each time? Yes, I'm uprooting my life and moving from the place I've spent the majority of my life, but am I pushing hard enough to get out of here as quickly as possible?
Unless you are a professional athlete so that your living and your team depend on you being at 100% all the time, just getting off your butt is a win. Modest amounts of exercise done consistently are of value to your health. As for going full throttle in other areas of your life, it seems to me that no engine can sustain running redline indefinitely. You sound like you are feeling stuck, like you are getting ready to gnaw a limb off to get out of some trap. But if the trap is your expectations of our (or any other friends') expectations of you... I dunno... It just seems like a recursion loop, or a Chinese finger trap.
WindSparrow - Apr 24, 2013 6:23:45 pm PDT #29338 of 30001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Sometimes drugs just make you not care that you hurt.
Or make the pain really fun.
Hil R. - Apr 24, 2013 6:32:57 pm PDT #29339 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
After taking a second dose, I'm feeling a bit better.
Burrell - Apr 24, 2013 6:34:48 pm PDT #29340 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Vulnerability isn't weakness. Self-compassion isn't self-pity. Beating yourself up isn't discipline. Grief isn't failure. Doubt isn't betrayal.
This is beautiful, smonster.
beth b - Apr 24, 2013 6:47:47 pm PDT #29341 of 30001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
nice , smonster.
I have a friend who is getting divorced. After years and years of horrible relationship with someone that treated her with no respect. And even though your circumstnces are different, I'll tell ou the same thing I say to her. Yes, you are making a change. Is it the right one - it is the right one for now. are you going fast enough forward? for now - yes. Making a change is giving you room to find what and where you want. Right now the only thing you can do is get past the couldof wouldof shouldof space.
Maria - Apr 24, 2013 6:50:08 pm PDT #29342 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
On my phone. Reading everything. Crying, for lots of reasons. Love you all so damned much.
Pix - Apr 24, 2013 6:59:54 pm PDT #29343 of 30001
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
Oh Maria. It's so hard to believe when you're so down, but these fine people are right. You are loved. You are strong. You are moving forward.
askye - Apr 24, 2013 7:16:24 pm PDT #29344 of 30001
Thrive to spite them
Maria everyone is right.
I think, we get so hard on ourselves in a way we would never be on someone else. It's like our brains tell us (very wrongly) that we don't deserve the compassion and kindness that someone else does.
The Self Care Golden Rule should be:
Treat yourself as you would treat others.