Vulnerability isn't weakness. Self-compassion isn't self-pity. Beating yourself up isn't discipline. Grief isn't failure. Doubt isn't betrayal.
This is beautiful, smonster.
Willow: You know what they say. The bigger they are... Anya: The faster they stomp you into nothin'.
'The Killer In Me'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Burrell - Apr 24, 2013 6:34:48 pm PDT #29340 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
beth b - Apr 24, 2013 6:47:47 pm PDT #29341 of 30001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
nice , smonster.
I have a friend who is getting divorced. After years and years of horrible relationship with someone that treated her with no respect. And even though your circumstnces are different, I'll tell ou the same thing I say to her. Yes, you are making a change. Is it the right one - it is the right one for now. are you going fast enough forward? for now - yes. Making a change is giving you room to find what and where you want. Right now the only thing you can do is get past the couldof wouldof shouldof space.
Maria - Apr 24, 2013 6:50:08 pm PDT #29342 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
On my phone. Reading everything. Crying, for lots of reasons. Love you all so damned much.
Pix - Apr 24, 2013 6:59:54 pm PDT #29343 of 30001
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
Oh Maria. It's so hard to believe when you're so down, but these fine people are right. You are loved. You are strong. You are moving forward.
askye - Apr 24, 2013 7:16:24 pm PDT #29344 of 30001
Thrive to spite them
Maria everyone is right.
I think, we get so hard on ourselves in a way we would never be on someone else. It's like our brains tell us (very wrongly) that we don't deserve the compassion and kindness that someone else does.
The Self Care Golden Rule should be:
Treat yourself as you would treat others.
Scrappy - Apr 24, 2013 8:12:34 pm PDT #29345 of 30001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
I love my wise Buffistas so very much.
Pix - Apr 24, 2013 8:29:27 pm PDT #29346 of 30001
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
I'm feeling a bit down myself tonight. No reason--everything is going really well at school--but just feeling a little disconnected. It sucks when ND and I go through a long stretch of working opposite schedules.
(Obviously not comparing to your situation, Maria.)
Laura - Apr 25, 2013 5:48:10 am PDT #29347 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
Hello all. Still is crazy busy mode. Taking a trip north of Tampa today. DH was going to make a round trip drive tomorrow for a 10am meeting but I talked him into going this afternoon with me instead. We'll stay at our favorite Inn on the Gulf [link] and have a nice dinner, watch the sunset, then laze around in the morning and still get to the 10am meeting. This full speed ahead thing has to pause for a half day.
I've been driving my son to and from work every day so I told him to deal with it and figure it out. Or, take a bus, dude. He is stomping on my last nerve. I also went into the wireless and programmed it to shut of from 11pm to 6am. Don't try me boy. And changed the password too, duh.
WindSparrow - Apr 25, 2013 5:55:21 am PDT #29348 of 30001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Oh no, erika! I'm so sorry for your loss.
billytea - Apr 25, 2013 6:01:51 am PDT #29349 of 30001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
Aw, man. I'm sorry, erika.