I think all close relationships change you, ita. The deeper you let folks in, usually, the more the probability of change. My close friendships with women have changed me as well--even if it's just because I get regularly called on my shit.

What may be confusing you is that to me, "change" doesn't have to be huge. Jason hasn't turned me into a different person. I'm still me, but I am now a me who rides motorcycles and who has two dogs. Those are pretty obvious changes. The other sorts of changes are harder to quantify--I am less defensive because he spots it when I get that way and won't engage. He is very hard on himself and I know I give him a more realistic view of how he comes across.("You did not talk too much and I know he understood you were teasing him and is not angry with you").

What may be confusing you

It's not confusing me. I just don't agree. I think some do, and some don't, is all.

It's not confusing me. I just don't agree. I think some do, and some don't, is all.

Ah, sorry I misunderstood. And I agree.

um, huh? (has this been posted here before? 'cause if not, it should have been)

I'm definitely a better version of me with Tom. I don't know why, but I am.

That's all I have since I am still braindead from jetlag and emotional hangover.

I don't know how much I've changed in my relationship with Will. I know there have been some changes but it hasn't been so much to my core. I don't know how much is being with Will and how much is other changes going on in my life.

Of course we had the added bit of being long distance. But I'm getting better at communicating. I know when we're together I get a bit calmer and less scattered and it's easier just to be... me.

I am so sick of being sick. I just want to be able to breathe!

I don't know how much I've changed in my relationship with Will.

You moved to another state in an entirely different part of the country.

You moved to another state in an entirely different part of the country.

That doesn't have to mean she's changed. Just that her circumstances have,

Which isn't to say I don't think you have changed, askye. Just that moving has nothing to do with it.

I did do that, and it's something that I've wanted to do for...well since high school. So he helped me get to that point.

You know, currently with my therapist she's working on helping me see me for who I am now, rather than the person I was.