I'm not attached to my name because of heritage though, I'm attached to it because its MY name. It always has been.
My heart expands / 'tis grown a bulge in't / inspired by / your beauty effulgent.
William ,'Conversations with Dead People'
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Trudy Booth - Apr 14, 2013 11:44:52 am PDT #28799 of 30001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Liese S. - Apr 14, 2013 11:50:31 am PDT #28800 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Since we tried to elope, my name change was doubly fraught. I wanted to keep my middle name instead of my maiden name, because it was my grandmother's name (my father's mother) and I thought it would be a nice tribute to my family. Only my family read it as me wanting to reject them entirely. So I just kept everything and added his on.
Hil R. - Apr 14, 2013 11:51:04 am PDT #28801 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I'm not attached to my name because of heritage though, I'm attached to it because its MY name. It always has been.
With me, it's a bit of both. Having a different name would just be weird to me. But also, this name has history. I can trace it back to the first person who adopted the name, in Poland in the 1830s or so, and there's a nice story behind it, and I can say with near certainty that I am related to every single person in the world who shares my last name.
Laura - Apr 14, 2013 12:00:37 pm PDT #28802 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
I am related to every single person in the world who shares my last name.
That is rather cool!
I had 3 weddings. Each with lots of people. All were great fun for me. There were things I would have done differently, but mostly I just enjoyed getting married to the person I loved, and being surrounded by friends and family while eating, drinking, and being merry!
JenP - Apr 14, 2013 12:03:18 pm PDT #28803 of 30001
I used to think I'd never change my name because it was my father's name, and he died when I was so young that I wanted to hold on to his name. Now I think I would be open to keeping it as my middle name if the name I'd be taking were a name I liked a lot. Which sounds kind of shallow, but I'm pretty sure is true. I'd never give up my current last name, but it doesn't have to be last anymore. Of course, who knows how I'd actually feel if it were to come up. This is just my best guess.
A friend took her husband's name, but she changed the spelling of it (added an "m") so it would look like it was pronounced and had him change his name officially, too. His parents were annoyed, but he has said over the years that it actually ended up being nice not having people mispronounce his name anymore.
DavidS - Apr 14, 2013 12:59:43 pm PDT #28804 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I am related to every single person in the world who shares my last name.
That's true for my last name as well. We all spring from a common ancestor who came to America from Germany in the 1700s and anglicized his name. I'm sure there are people with the original German name ("Schmeh") who are not related, but all of the actual Smays are from the same Johann that landed in Delaware.
Burrell - Apr 14, 2013 1:24:48 pm PDT #28805 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
I can say with near certainty that I am related to every single person in the world who shares my last name.
If you go with my married name, that's true for me too. Then again, there's only the 4 of us.
Connie Neil - Apr 14, 2013 1:55:45 pm PDT #28806 of 30001
brillig
the original German name ("Schmeh")
I just pictured a German version of Grumpy Cat saying that name.
billytea - Apr 14, 2013 1:57:12 pm PDT #28807 of 30001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
Latest entries in the Ryan Files:
Yesterday, when we were getting him ready for his nap, he looked at me and asked, "Daddy, why do you have such a big tummy?" Biyi told him, "It's because his tummy is full of knowledge."
Ryan thought a moment and replied, "No, because it's full of porridge!" I think we've hit another milestone. His first pun.
Also yesterday, at church, he was joining in with the prayers. Specifically, after the prayers, when everyone says "Amen". More specifically, just after that too, when he takes advantage of the silence to put out there his own loud "AMEN!"
His church does a children's lesson during the service. All the kids sit just in front of the altar and have a discussion with the pastor. Ryan went up with the other children. They close with a prayer. Ryan looked up and saw Biyi with her head bowed and eyes closed, got up, trotted over to her, patted her on the knee and said, "Wake up Mummy!"
They're probably fortunate that he didn't start singing "Give Me A Home Among The Gum Trees" during the sermon.
beth b - Apr 14, 2013 2:25:42 pm PDT #28808 of 30001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
so I did not change my name, but I have know Matt for most of my life. To him, my name changine didn't make sense - muy name was my name. I'm not sure where it would have ended up if he did care.
I think that because Tim's family seems to see you as family - even before you were getting married it adds a different force behind the choice.