Tim was slightly nonplussed that I refuse to do a garter toss, but he's fine with it.

It's his garter, you should let him toss it! Oh, wait, you meant . . . ;)

It's his garter, you should let him toss it! Oh, wait, you meant . . . ;)

I actually DID tell him that if we used one of his garters, I'd consider wearing it and letting him toss it. But it's truly a big no. I'm not fond of that tradition.

Both! Do a small schmancy cake you can cut, and cupcakes for the eating!

Tim's objection to the cupcakes -- at least, that he's told me about -- is that they're messy and drop crumbs because people eat them with their hands rather than on a plate with forks, and that means more for the B&B staff to clean up. I pointed out that our families aren't howler monkeys and will be neat and clean, but he was still dubious.

My objection to cake is that I need something gluten-free, and of the GF bakeries around here, I am not convinced they can make a *pretty* wedding cake. I have had an unbelievably delicious GF cake, but it was decorated for a birthday, which is way different than a wedding cake.

Are cupcakes "pretty"? I'm not sure why I'm okay with them -- the cupcake place I'm looking at DOES use really gorgeous cupcake papers, and the frosting is done really well -- but for some reason I don't need cupcakes to be as lovely as an actual cake. I dunno.

Yeah, I was thinking if you got cupcakes you could have some gluten free and some vegan and some regular, if you so desired.

I am sad--I broke my kindle. By sitting on it. On the plus side, better that than my iPad or phone, and its my last day here so it's not like I'll run out of stuff to read. Though annoyed at myself that this was the ONE DAY I didn't bring a paperback to the beach also, so had to leave Brenda to the cool breezes and head back to the house. Doh.

Why don't you have the groom's cake, and assorted cup cakes?

One wedding I went to this past summer had several small cakes -- like, five cakes, each maybe 6-8 inches in diameter, each one a different flavor, with a different kind of decoration.

ALL THE CAKES!

Tep, have them make a sample smaller cake a few months ahead.

So, am I a bad person for not wanting to go on a trip with a good friend and someone I don't know? I sent an email to a friend suggesting that we go to London for my birthday (which we had sort of vaguely discussed) She replied that she and another friend who I don't know were already planning a trip the week before. I don't really care about the timing, I just don't want to go a trip with someone I don't know who may have different motivations for being there. I want to see theatre, go to a few museums, eat at some good places, and hang out in pubs. Is it bad to say I don't want to go now?

I don't think so. (Were they going to London also?). Maybe the friend could overlap the trips? But yeah, travel can be tricky with people, and while it'd be great if you got along, I don't think it's required that you be into it.

I just don't want my friend to be torn between us. I don't think that the friend's been to London before. I'm not going to want to do stuff like see the crown jewels, etc.