I just... no. I know where this anxiety is coming from. And I know it will dissipate. I will not feel like this forever, but right now, it's front and center.

Maria ignore the condescending comment and listen to the wise buffistas. What you're experiencing is completely normal.

FB was not letting me comment, Maria. Otherwise I would have said how futilemwords are, but that I believe you are rising the waves of grief as they come. That is all anyone can do. There is nothing else for it. Whether a therapist might be of use to you at this time or not, I am behind you.

Well, sometimes it helps to have a place where the relationship is designed so they listen to your stuff, although it is true that a disconcerting number of people who say that aren't so much considering your happiness so much as pointing out "Gee, you're fucked up!" and halfway hoping there's some kind of ointment that you might get for it without inconveniencing them. That said, I believe there is hardly a person alive that couldn't benefit from a few sessions.

Many many hugs to you, Maria. What everyone is saying here is true. You are very strong, don't forget it.

Maria - ignore them. Buffistas are wise. The hivemind is amazing.

I have a question for the hivemind, actually. A friend of mine is in deep financial hell. The family belongings have been in storage as her family has tried to regain their feet, but they are behind enough that the storage company is going to put their stuff up for auction next week.

Would filing for bankrupcy immediate help stop that? At least until the bankrupcy is worked out? How long is that process?

All sympathies to Caemon's family.

((((Maria))))

Suzi,

I think what they need to do is get cash (the minimum amount) for the storage company to cease this action.

Would they accept 2 months rent, I wonder. See if someone can loan/give them the $$ to make this happen.

I think bankruptcy paperwork might take too long for this.

Thanks le nub. She is trying to get money for the storage company. I paypaled her a bit and hopefully other friends will chip in enough to get them past this hurdle.

After being out of work for a while, she got a job working with the homeless through a huge non-profit. I'm sure asking for help for herself knowing how close she is to the same situation as her clients makes it so much harder.

The other thing too: can she sell some of her stuff before it is sold by the company? I wonder if she could raise enough $$ to keep some of her stuff.