Amy, you're right, and I will.
Maria, I agree with what others said, that post sounds like a person that is trying to make your husband's death all about her than someone that actually knew him well. I'm sorry she upset you.
Lindsey: Why--why did you... Lorne: One last job. You're not part of the solution, Lindsey. You never will be. Lindsey: You kill me? A flunky?! I'm not just...Angel...kills me. You...Angel... Lorne: Good night, folks.
'Not Fade Away'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
sj - Jan 16, 2013 7:21:11 am PST #25051 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Strix - Jan 16, 2013 7:27:09 am PST #25052 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
I'm sure you're at work, sorella, but insent.
Much love, sympathy and compassion to you, love...
erikaj - Jan 16, 2013 7:48:48 am PST #25053 of 30001
Always Anti-fascist!
I got allergic to my eyedrops too, once, Strix. Spent six months wanting to scratch my face off. Maria, I don't know what to say, but I bet Facebook chick exaggerates a lot...
meara - Jan 16, 2013 8:03:26 am PST #25054 of 30001
Maria, what everyone else said, plus: here, we remember not just his death, but how you felt about him before that, and all the shit he put you through. No judgement if. You want to rant or move on or whatever you want to do!!
JZ - Jan 16, 2013 8:21:22 am PST #25055 of 30001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Maria, dear, seconding, thirding, fourthing everyone else. No judgment at all. It was your lived experience and it is your lived grief, in all its complication and anger. We don't have more than hints and shadows of what it's taken for you to live through it this far; we've no right to judge, and we would never want to. This is an utterly safe space for you to vent (it sounds like FB is very much not, but we are very much not FB).
Also, it is my considered opinion that Katie is an attention-whoring dipshit and I roll all my eyes at her.
askye - Jan 16, 2013 8:26:57 am PST #25056 of 30001
Thrive to spite them
Maria, I think the post is tacky and you're not in the wrong for having bad feelings about it.
Strix I'm glad you are feeling better.
P.M. Marc - Jan 16, 2013 8:32:59 am PST #25057 of 30001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Maria, what Cass said.
And what everyone else said.
Maria - Jan 16, 2013 8:37:41 am PST #25058 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
What gets me is that I felt I was so desperate to be loved that he was my only chance at that. And I stuck around because I didn't think I'd be able to find anyone else.
You only had one side of the story. He wasn't a bad person, but it took me too long to realize that he wasn't the right person for me. I miss him, I still love him, and I wish he was here, but I don't miss what our relationship was at the end.
I miss the shared-ness of life together. I miss how we were at the beginning, And I want that back. I can be alone, but I don't want to be. I'm just happier when the burden is shared with a significant other. But the next one will be very different.
Connie Neil - Jan 16, 2013 8:59:08 am PST #25059 of 30001
brillig
I often contemplate what life will be like when the odds finally catch up with Hubby and I'm on my own. I think it will be the ongoing conversation, with all the inside jokes and references, that I will miss the most.
Toddson - Jan 16, 2013 10:13:02 am PST #25060 of 30001
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
Maria, I'm sorry for the grief. If it would help, I could take you out for ... martinis? chocolate? chocolate martinis?
You stuck with him when things got bad. Any number of people would have bailed when the going go tough. Now you're feeling what you're feeling - you'll heal at your own pace. We're with you and I'm sure I'm not the only one who'd offer a shoulder or anything else you need.