{{{Laura}}} I'm sorry about your kitty. Losing a pet sucks.
Also {{{sj}}}. We had to use an RE to get pregnant and I was like you - find the issue if there is one and let's deal with it. And there were issues, they got fixed, and I got pregnant. "Just relax" wouldn't have worked with me. It is just an insensitive and shitty thing to say to someone. People need a cluesticking sometimes.