sounds like you have a good doctor who is thinking about attacking your depression through some creative means. I'm glad.
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le nubian - Sep 04, 2012 3:22:46 pm PDT #19776 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
Laura - Sep 04, 2012 3:29:39 pm PDT #19777 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
So, I have a game plan and I feel better.
It is good to hear things went well. It sounds like you have a good doctor.
So I walked to my sister's house to be there when she got home from work. And she worked late! So I got a ride home from my step-dad because it started raining and I didn't want to hang at her house for a couple hours waiting. Tomorrow is another day.
askye - Sep 04, 2012 3:39:36 pm PDT #19778 of 30001
Thrive to spite them
Yeah I think I'm getting a better level of care here than when I was in Tally. Mostly it's the way this counselling center is set up - to see a shrink you also have to be in counselling . If the therapist thinks you don't need to be then that's fine, but if you don't regularly meet with a therapist then they cut you off from the shrink.
Also there's a 24 hour line to call for help. You get an answering service but someone calls you back. My previous experience was the option of trying to get through to the staff or dialing 911.
And the 2 read each others notes and stuff. Partly it's the change in technology - it's easy to send notes from the shrink to a primary care or vice versa.
The small town aspect is in play. This is the counselling center for the region but it's still a lot fewer people than live in Tally.
smonster - Sep 04, 2012 4:21:58 pm PDT #19779 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
askye, I'm so happy that you are getting good care. That is huge. And again, I am impressed by your self-awareness.
Laura, best of luck, my dear! You know your sister best, but here are things that help me: putting on a timer and/or choosing a set number of things (Flylady calls it a "27 Fling Boogie," and does 27 buy that might be too much to start), putting on music... also, if it is a mobility thing, maybe you can go room by room and bring her a few things at a time. Have bags/boxes ready to go for donations/ebay/trash/recycling and take it out of the house when you go. Start with what's easiest for her - pieces of paper, old magazines, whatever - let her get a taste of success and freedom.
Anyway. I hope you're not feeling overwhelmed with advice. You're a good sister and a brave one.
Fuuuuuck, working for ten hours is haaaaard. I kind of forgot. My neighbor is coming to fix the ceiling in the evenings starting tomorrow, which is good but going to be odd having someone here.
Laura - Sep 04, 2012 4:34:16 pm PDT #19780 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
Anyway. I hope you're not feeling overwhelmed with advice
Not at all, I wish I had asked about this earlier. It has been on my mind for years. As always, grateful for the Buffistas.
Cass - Sep 04, 2012 4:38:44 pm PDT #19781 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Start with what's easiest for her - pieces of paper, old magazines, whatever - let her get a taste of success and freedom.
Excellent advice. The big scary things are easier to tackle when there are some early successes.
omnis_audis - Sep 04, 2012 4:40:08 pm PDT #19782 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Laura, here is an idea. You mentioned earlier, your sister has trouble bending over to pick up/clean stuff. Might I recomend a wheelie desk chair. Great for rolling around the room, and picking stuff up. I've also been known to keep a chair in the kitchen, to better get stuff out of the oven. Sad to say, my bathrooms have never fit a chair.
Ginger - Sep 04, 2012 4:54:53 pm PDT #19783 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
When I had my knee surgeries, I used a rolling garden seat.
Laura - Sep 04, 2012 4:56:28 pm PDT #19784 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
I agree, omnis, but I have to say my first thought was first we need a path wide enough for a chair. I'm going to ask her son tomorrow when he last discussed helping her. He has had issues with her in the past for even shoveling snow or fixing stuff without permission. She can do for everyone all the time, but not so willing to take help.
I have renewed determination to make inroads with her.
Liese S. - Sep 04, 2012 5:05:52 pm PDT #19785 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
I wish you support. That's a hard row to hoe.
smonster, I love the 27 fling boogie! Actually I need to do one shortly. But mostly I gotta get back on the daily 5 minute room rescue. I used to be so surprised at how much progress I made just with that. The other regular routine stuff is going pretty well.
There's a lot of chaos in the house right now because my office is all torn apart from prepping for the bank, and the SO's studio is all torn apart from him coming home from tour. But it's great. He's really motivated; he's writing music like crazy right now, so he wants a good space. Which is great for us and the house as a whole because it's the first thing you see when you walk in.
Just got back from my 3rd of 4 training sessions, and at first I was all, oh, I'm not as sore, but I can already tell I'm going to be sore tomorrow.