billytea, thank you for sharing the David Attenborough stuff. Thanks to your talk over the years, the kids and I have now watched much of his work (some things many many times) and we just love him. When we recently saw a nature documentary that did not include him, Dillo was put off, as if something was wrong!

Sir David Attenborough

I want to be reincarnated as him.

then this morning he shares that he's not ready to be exclusive and is dating someone else. OH HAI INSECURITIES.

OH HAI oh hell no. Thanks for helping me define a boundary, there! I'm not sleeping with anybody who's sleeping with anybody else.

then this morning he shares that he's not ready to be exclusive and is dating someone else. OH HAI INSECURITIES.

Yikes! I'm kind of with Zen, and I think that's something that should be on the table before sex.

Who is she? What's she like? Is she prettier than me? Funnier? Less neurotic?!?!

It's probably that she has better friends. Tom and I were total snoozefests last night. I will not tell Tom about Z's revelations since he tends to be fiercely loyal and will consider this turn of events Less Than Honorable toward you. And we're hanging out tomorrow, so.

The guy replied with a "Wink". Okay, that's nice, still interested! but I need a verbal response, man. Use your words.

Oh, now it's funny. He Winked at me again, I think probably to let me know that he's changed his username. I Winked back, to say, yes I see your new username. It's like a shy-geek code.

If he Winks at me again, I'm gonna hunt him down. Enough already.

I hated the winking on OKC. HATED it. It was so namby-pamby; at least title it something less coy, like "Casual Grope."

But I met D through it, so it ain't all bad.

smonster, um. Yeah. Miscommunication? Sounds like he has it.

I'm following the dating/sex/etc. discussion with much interest. I won't go in to how long it's been since I've had anything resembling a date, or my various Issues. I'm not sure I even want to get into the dating or looking around pool, but it's nice to know y'all have got my back should I ever want to make another try at entering those waters.

What Anne said.

Did he have an issue with the idea of you being into this other woman, smonster? Or an issue with her being connected to him or doing it in front of him? I'm just wondering, since he's not interested in exclusivity, the mere concept shouldn't be a bother, so it's something about the how.

Confucius and Buckaroo Banzai both said "No matter where you go, there you are." I don't think they said it to each other, though.

Anyway, lots of good communication and stuff, and then this morning he shares that he's not ready to be exclusive and is dating someone else.

Wait, what? Goddammit.

Well, it probably should have come up before sex, but isn't the general assumption that you start out not exclusive, until exclusivity is declared?

I agree with ita that I'd be interested in knowing what his objection to your purported interest in the friend was, if he's not exclusive why would he have been expecting you to be?

Billytea, the Attenborough evening sounds fabulous. He's such an enthusiast, and it's infectious.

Sir David Attenborough

I want to be reincarnated as him.

Or his brother, Richard. The Overachieving Attenboroughs!