something similar happened to me when I moved here (to Virginia PNW). New Jersey NC was so toxic for me; I was so unhappy there, that when I moved to a place better suited to me, I was giddily happy for a few months. It was as if I'd been carrying a heavy weight for a long time, and when I took it off, I felt so much lighter in comparison. But it normalized.

I'm in this club, too. But I'm working on it.

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See, I'm not hearing that you're ready for that, even if it's what you want.

Oh, I agree.

You might need a couple of times around the rink with your hands on the railing. And it's not like you'd have to say no sex. Go on a date or two with a couple guys and just see some new people. Don't love them, then leave them.

I need the instruction manual.

eta Okay, what you just wrote is something of an instruction manual. I'll try it. Four dates, no one expects sex unless they're an asshole, I'm not committed. I have a few spoons available for this, I think.

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Buffista Therapy Room: come in with the pieces of your psyche in your hand, leave with them glued together in new, unexpected, but surprisingly pleasing configurations.

edit: Possibly with added pinwheels and sparklers for effect.

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eta Okay, what you just wrote is something of an instruction manual. I'll try it. Four dates, no one expects sex unless they're an asshole, I'm not committed. I have a few spoons available for this, I think.

Yes. You are a gem, and any guy worth having sex with will wait until you're ready.

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t points and nods at Vortex being wise

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The guy replied with a "Wink". Okay, that's nice, still interested! but I need a verbal response, man. Use your words.

You are a gem, and any guy worth having sex with will wait until you're ready.

I'll write this down. Maybe I'll remember.

eta And Beverly, I'm still halfway thinking I should move to the PNW. I love it so. But my sister is here and I can't leave her all alone.

I need to go to bed.

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Bring her with, Zen! PNW loves you too!

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I'll write this down. Maybe I'll remember.

maybe make it your tag line in here. So everytime you make a post, you will be reminded how awesome you are, and that you are totally worth it.

So tonight, my upstairs neighbor was walking his dog outside my door. Invited him in. We were chatting. His wife came down. We were chatting. Got lots of dirt on the previous owner of this place. Apparently she made their life a living hell (as in "i can hear you, I am calling the cops, you are making too much noise"). At one point, the wife went up to get something, and he was like "Wait, we can't hear her walking around" Nope. "But that c_ _ _ _ would pound on the ceiling with every step we took" He was very relieved that I'm not pounding on the ceiling. Apparently they were on eggshells. Crazy. Sad part. Her job is relocating them to Atlanta, and they will have to short sale their condo. And they are leaving in a few weeks. Oh. And then we went up to their place. I may be buying their HE washer/dryer. $700 for the set. About 1 year old. Didn't see what brand. I think GE. Also, he drinks some cheap-ass nasty beer. Why I drank a 40oz'er, I have no clue. So. I might be a little drunk.

Speaking of therapy couch. I realize, or maybe wonder, not sure which. Given all the times I was grounded as a teen, and had to spend time in my room... I wonder if that's what made me such the lone wolf I am today. I have no problem sitting in my apartment alone for days on end. Don't mind interaction with others, but don't crave it. Does that make sense? Is that cause/effect? Or just how it worked out? Curious. guess there really is no way of truly finding out.

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I have no problem sitting in my apartment alone for days on end. Don't mind interaction with others, but don't crave it.

I think some of us are just wired this way.

I'm following the dating/sex/etc. discussion with much interest. I won't go in to how long it's been since I've had anything resembling a date, or my various Issues. I'm not sure I even want to get into the dating or looking around pool, but it's nice to know y'all have got my back should I ever want to make another try at entering those waters.

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Quick recap of my Attenborough adventures! Some things I've learned about Sir David Attenborough:

• He was the first person to bring the word "bugger" to BBC programming.

• He produced the Queen's Christmas message for ten years.

• He was once mistaken for the Duke of Edinburgh by a tribe on the Solomon Islands. (Attenborough, Edinburgh; simple mistake.) This tribe, at the time, rejected all things European; his party was still welcomed, on condition that they brought no Western clothing into the village. So, this happened, from the 27:15 mark or so: [link] Seriously, check this out. Then remember, they thought he was the Duke of Edinburgh.

• Among the things David brought to British television are: snooker, rugby league and Monty Python's Flying Circus.

• He once thought he had returned from an expedition with malaria; turned out that the fever was because his wife had bought an electric blanket while he was away.

• Among the items named after him are a plesiosaurid, a north Australian spider (as of this month), and -- I kid you not -- a species of echidna. At this point I believe he's doing this deliberately.

My favourite story from the evening: he recounts one of his first expeditions, for the programme ZooQuest, seeking to film a Komodo dragon. A fisherman of uncertain reliability had taken them from Flores to Komodo island (striking at least one coral reef on the way, and revealing once they were two days out that he'd never actually been to Komodo before), where they stayed at a local village. The expedition itself was successful; but one night over dinner, the headman talked with him:

"This captain that brought you here, he is no good."
"We've noticed. But how do you mean, 'no good'?"
"He is not a fisherman. He runs guns to the rebels in Sulawesi. He was only on Flores because he is hiding out from the army."
"Um... that explains a lot, I suppose."
"Yes. He comes to me, this man, and says to me, 'These passengers, they have many valuables and equipment. If you come back with me, we can overpower them together.'"
"Ah. Sooo... Are you... coming back with us."
[smiling and gesturing vaguely] "Oh, you know... The wife..."

I may well have some more later. They took some audience questions, but not mine. The ones they chose were quite interesting anyway. (One person asked him, "What's the one that got away?" He said that up to a few years ago, he'd have said the snow leopard; but they caught some quite excellent footage for Planet Earth, shown here: [link] Now, his pick is the giant squid, though he doesn't hold out much hope of being the one to fill that gap.

It was well worth it. Oh, one other thing: I figured that he was doing these presentations as his way of slowing down or something. Not so. Apparently he had a few days free in Australian on his way from the Galapagos Islands to Mozambique. He's 86 years old.

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