Zen, I agree with Amy. And if you feel there's something fishy here, I say trust your instincts, doesn't matter if you feel guilty about contacting her first or not. FWIW, I think relationships are the work of two people, not one. If timing's inconvenient, it is sometimes just what it is. But if there are a lot of feelings and wondering and concerns about why timing never works, it just adds more emotional work. Then again, it's just my two cents and I hate to put more work than I actually have to. These things should be fun and easy - it's friends, right?

I have some friends that I'm not really in constant touch with, but every time we meet we pick up from the last time as if no time passed at all. Different people live in different rhythms, have different lives. Sometimes it's just it.

[This coming from a person who loved to pretend her cell phone doesn't exist on weekends (I usually just put it on silent because I'm at my parents and there are different sleeping hours for everyone, and then forget about it and don't hear it ring. But most people know it's best to contact me via email/text messages as is. Yes, omnis, I know I'm yet to reply to you. Shush)].

Edit to say that I'm might be up but hardly awake. There are probably grammar issues in my message I'll manage to see only later.

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I live in the desert now.

Oh wow. I didn't realize it was happening that fast! Welcome to California. Hope it's not too hot up there right now. It's a bit warm at the coast. If you need a day trip down to the low lands, c'mon down. My place is box city until they fix the floor. But you are welcome here. Don't think I can see the race from my new place, but I'm told we can hear it.

Shir, no worries luv. I'm not pressuring you. Write when you have time and energy.

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:: jumps up and down and waves at Zenkitty ::

hi!

::is right in front of face:: waves back Hi, omnis!

Thanks for the reality check, guys. I've done the best I can at this point; the ball's in her court, and I'm done worrying about what she'll do with it. Remembering that she had my email all along helps me feel less guilty!

But I spent Sunday with my dad and that made it clear in my heart that this was where I needed to be right now.

As hard as the move has been, Cass, I'm glad you feel it's the right thing for you both now.

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{{{Cass}}} I'm impressed with how quickly you managed that move, and I'm glad you are happy with your decision. Continued ~ma to you and your dad.

Zen, I'd say leave the ball in her court, and try not to worry to much until you see her in person and see what her attitude is like then.

I'm finally following through on the doctor's appointment I canceled right after the move, when I was just too exhausted to deal with it. Just a check up.

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Hope you get settled in soon, Cass.

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{{{Cass}}} I'm impressed with how quickly you managed that move, and I'm glad you are happy with your decision. Continued ~ma to you and your dad.

What sj said.

Zen, I'm just nodding along at the wise words and wishing you discernment.

Having a good day at work. I used some balancing skills I learned climbing and created a makeshift speaker for my iPhone out of an empty plastic tub. Amazing how much better both the brain and body work with a little sleep.

Plus, very much looking forward to dinner tonight with Z at Nora and Tom's.

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Zen, I'm supporting what Shir said, about trusting instincts, and also what others have said about people's lives moving at different speeds. I hope it becomes clear which one this is.

Yay moving, Cass! I hope it's a great change for you.

Merlin has suddenly decided, over the last few days, that he's willing to get closer to the house (and me) in the pursuit of food. He's coming into the back garden to ask for his dinner now, rather than waiting till it's there and sneaking over the fence. Also not running away when I come out to give it to him. Now if I can just get close enough to run a brush through his ridiculously long fur.

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Merlin has suddenly decided, over the last few days, that he's willing to get closer to the house (and me) in the pursuit of food.

Cats are more likely to be willing to get close to you the less you seem to want them to. As long as you bring food with your indifference.

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Oh wow. I didn't realize it was happening that fast!

I left Portland a week ago today. Weird. I have a lot of bruises to show for it though. And so many more to go before I am finally settled.

This coming from a person who loved to pretend her cell phone doesn't exist on weekends

I like to pretend it doesn't exist a lot. But that trick hasn't worked in a while. Still, it's a great trick.

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And maybe-friend has emailed me back. She seems laissez-faire about keeping in touch. I'm totally cool with that, being of a similar inclination. She suggested lunch again, so I guess I was just letting my insecurities get the best of me. Thank you all for helping me deal with my sudden flare-up of neurosis.

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