I just don't know how reasonable my worry is.

I don't get intentional negativity from that - I do get overbusy, and reconnecting with someone who is a friend but not necessarily a close one is not at the top of the prioritiy list.

(I also feel, generally, like some people's calendars move faster than others. Between both schedules and perspective, "we're getting together soon to do X", could totally end up being six weeks from now. Whereas for other people I know (but have to remind myself) that if it doesn't happen in two weeks it starts to feel like a blowoff.

So my take would be to let it ride for a bit - enjoy when you can get together but don't count on it being a super frequent thing, at least not right now.

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I don't get intentional negativity from that - I do get overbusy

Okay. Maybe my gut feeling got confused by insecurity. I did feel guilty for not contacting her sooner, but it's not like I singled her out... I'm awful at keeping in touch with people. It's like everything else: if it's not right in front of my face, I've already forgotten about it.

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:: jumps up and down and waves at Zenkitty ::

hi!

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I'm awful at keeping in touch with people. It's like everything else: if it's not right in front of my face, I've already forgotten about it.

I think a lot of people are this way...oh, wait, I'm talking about ME.

My good friend who came to stay with me last week kept apologizing for being bad at keeping in touch. I had to point out that the phone goes both ways, so yeah, we share the habit.

Plus? When we are together, it is as if no time has passed.

In other words, don't feel guilty!

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Happy birthday, Scrappy. I've skated in with a few minutes to spare.

I live in the desert now. Huh. That part is weird. But I spent Sunday with my dad and that made it clear in my heart that this was where I needed to be right now.

Old friendships can be very fraught. I'm not really good at figuring out either how or if to save them when it gets complicated.

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Zen, I agree with Amy. And if you feel there's something fishy here, I say trust your instincts, doesn't matter if you feel guilty about contacting her first or not. FWIW, I think relationships are the work of two people, not one. If timing's inconvenient, it is sometimes just what it is. But if there are a lot of feelings and wondering and concerns about why timing never works, it just adds more emotional work. Then again, it's just my two cents and I hate to put more work than I actually have to. These things should be fun and easy - it's friends, right?

I have some friends that I'm not really in constant touch with, but every time we meet we pick up from the last time as if no time passed at all. Different people live in different rhythms, have different lives. Sometimes it's just it.

[This coming from a person who loved to pretend her cell phone doesn't exist on weekends (I usually just put it on silent because I'm at my parents and there are different sleeping hours for everyone, and then forget about it and don't hear it ring. But most people know it's best to contact me via email/text messages as is. Yes, omnis, I know I'm yet to reply to you. Shush)].

Edit to say that I'm might be up but hardly awake. There are probably grammar issues in my message I'll manage to see only later.

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I live in the desert now.

Oh wow. I didn't realize it was happening that fast! Welcome to California. Hope it's not too hot up there right now. It's a bit warm at the coast. If you need a day trip down to the low lands, c'mon down. My place is box city until they fix the floor. But you are welcome here. Don't think I can see the race from my new place, but I'm told we can hear it.

Shir, no worries luv. I'm not pressuring you. Write when you have time and energy.

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:: jumps up and down and waves at Zenkitty ::

hi!

::is right in front of face:: waves back Hi, omnis!

Thanks for the reality check, guys. I've done the best I can at this point; the ball's in her court, and I'm done worrying about what she'll do with it. Remembering that she had my email all along helps me feel less guilty!

But I spent Sunday with my dad and that made it clear in my heart that this was where I needed to be right now.

As hard as the move has been, Cass, I'm glad you feel it's the right thing for you both now.

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{{{Cass}}} I'm impressed with how quickly you managed that move, and I'm glad you are happy with your decision. Continued ~ma to you and your dad.

Zen, I'd say leave the ball in her court, and try not to worry to much until you see her in person and see what her attitude is like then.

I'm finally following through on the doctor's appointment I canceled right after the move, when I was just too exhausted to deal with it. Just a check up.

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Hope you get settled in soon, Cass.

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